The Retun of the Mother-in-Law....Rated R (not suitable for children)
Unfortunately, my blissful two weeks of peace and quiet have gone the way of the dodo. My in-laws have returned from vacation and the craziness began while they were still taxiing to their arrival gate. My mother-in-law has this EXTREMELY bad habit of calling me at least once, if not several times a day to check up on me. Now, a normal person might think that this is a very sweet gesture. I'm here to tell you, we are not dealing with a normal person here. No, her calls are to make sure that I'm keeping her grandchild safe and not doing anything I shouldn't be doing. And, she always refers to the baby as her grandchild...apparently my husband and I have no parental rights to the little Jelly Bean - it's only her grandchild.
So, my father-in-law called around 7 last night to tell us that they landed in Newark and all was ok. He had a quick conversation with my husband. You know the typical guy phone call...everything is ok on both ends, yadda yadda yadda, ok bye. Well, apparently this was not enough for my mother-in-law and called back a few seconds later. She was already crying, in anticipation that something was wrong. She started out talking to my husband and when he had enough of trying to decipher English through sobs, he handed the phone to me....gee, thanks! From what I understood (according to my husband, women understand what other women are trying to say while crying), she was so worried her whole vacation that something happened to her grandchild that she literally made herself sick almost every night. She said that she got so worked up on the flight home that she couldn't eat and practically cried the entire way. Like I said, this is not normal. Mind you, not once during her 2 week trip did she try to call us to make sure things were ok. She had access to e-mail (even more so than the phone) and still didn't contact us. And not for anything, don't you think that if something wasn't ok we would have gotten a hold of them? Honestly! She also had no recollection of our conversation 2 days into their trip. We called to tell them that the doctor's appointment went very well and that everything was great. Even after I reminded her, she still had no idea. I just don't get it. I don't understand why she's so worried about everything. I mean, I worry about things too. I'm a first time mom-to-be, it took us 4 years to have this baby, and the everyday normal things you worry about while pregnant. But, the difference is that while I worry - can still function. Some worrying is normal, of course. But she's out of control.
I told her first of all, that she had to calm down and stop crying. She was stressing me out and that's not good for "her grandchild." Secondly, I told her that she needed to stop worrying so much. Everything is going great. My belly is growing, my wardrobe is shrinking, and the doctor is happy with all the blood work and ultrasounds. I'm almost done with my first trimester...only 5 days to go. The statistic my doctor told me to reassure my nerves is that once you hear and see a strong heart beat by 8 weeks, 97% of babies are carried to fully term. We saw a strong heart beat at 7 weeks 3 days and again at 9 weeks 2 days. We are all good. I promise. I also told her that she needs to get a grip on things because I still have 6 months to go and she's going to put herself in the hospital. That calmed her down a little, but it's 10:30 am and she's already called twice today. Thank the modern technology gods for caller ID!
So, my father-in-law called around 7 last night to tell us that they landed in Newark and all was ok. He had a quick conversation with my husband. You know the typical guy phone call...everything is ok on both ends, yadda yadda yadda, ok bye. Well, apparently this was not enough for my mother-in-law and called back a few seconds later. She was already crying, in anticipation that something was wrong. She started out talking to my husband and when he had enough of trying to decipher English through sobs, he handed the phone to me....gee, thanks! From what I understood (according to my husband, women understand what other women are trying to say while crying), she was so worried her whole vacation that something happened to her grandchild that she literally made herself sick almost every night. She said that she got so worked up on the flight home that she couldn't eat and practically cried the entire way. Like I said, this is not normal. Mind you, not once during her 2 week trip did she try to call us to make sure things were ok. She had access to e-mail (even more so than the phone) and still didn't contact us. And not for anything, don't you think that if something wasn't ok we would have gotten a hold of them? Honestly! She also had no recollection of our conversation 2 days into their trip. We called to tell them that the doctor's appointment went very well and that everything was great. Even after I reminded her, she still had no idea. I just don't get it. I don't understand why she's so worried about everything. I mean, I worry about things too. I'm a first time mom-to-be, it took us 4 years to have this baby, and the everyday normal things you worry about while pregnant. But, the difference is that while I worry - can still function. Some worrying is normal, of course. But she's out of control.
I told her first of all, that she had to calm down and stop crying. She was stressing me out and that's not good for "her grandchild." Secondly, I told her that she needed to stop worrying so much. Everything is going great. My belly is growing, my wardrobe is shrinking, and the doctor is happy with all the blood work and ultrasounds. I'm almost done with my first trimester...only 5 days to go. The statistic my doctor told me to reassure my nerves is that once you hear and see a strong heart beat by 8 weeks, 97% of babies are carried to fully term. We saw a strong heart beat at 7 weeks 3 days and again at 9 weeks 2 days. We are all good. I promise. I also told her that she needs to get a grip on things because I still have 6 months to go and she's going to put herself in the hospital. That calmed her down a little, but it's 10:30 am and she's already called twice today. Thank the modern technology gods for caller ID!