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So ownership. I've been thinking a lot about the concept recently. Not the ownership of things, but the ownership of people. Not slavery, but relationships, which don't necessarily need to be romantic.
So oddly enough, as much as I fight being told what to do, I like it when someone thinks they "own" me. Like for instance, parents. I like it when my parents would say something like, "that's my daughter," because they would say it out of pride. Or when they boast about my achievements to their friends, as if they were their own achievements. Now I realize that some people would be angry about that (as I am every once in a while...) because they didn't really have any direct connection to that achievement. However, they raised me. Without them, I don't exist. They've technically (though not entirely) molded me into the person I am today. So when I was younger, I would look to do things that would make them proud of me. And it goes both ways. As much as I complain about my mother, she is my mother. I love her. Or my sister. Although I don't technically own my sister, I feel that she is my sister and I'm very proud to be her sister. I feel like I own a little piece of each of them and I really cherish the honor of them letting me do so.
As for romantic relationships, I can see lots of people disagreeing with me on this because in that situation, ideally, the two people involved are equals. But to clarify, I feel that they can still be equals and "own" each other. It's when you really get the sense that they aren't equals (like when one does not respect the other) that you know there's something wrong there. But anyways, it can become a little more primal there, which isn't necessarily bad. For example, whenever I was dating someone, I really liked wearing something of theirs. For Brian, it was his spikey punk bracelet. For Cody, it was his t-shirt. And so on. (Just as a side note, I know some of you know that I like to randomly take guy's watches and wear them. I don't think of that as an ownership thing. I just like the weight and feel of men's watches, which you are allowed to think of as weird) And I knew that they liked seeing me wear these items because they felt that I was kind of theirs.
Now that brings me to something else. I am the jealous type, whether it be friends or boyfriends. And jealousy is a pretty primal thing. If there is something special that I have with someone, I'd rather it keep this something fairly exclusive, because it is our thing. Like Reed and I like to eat somewhere every once in a while, just the two of us. I like having that (though note that I adore his girlfriend and do enjoy it when the three of us do something). Or Cheena and I have our controversial "cupcake" club. It's our special thing. (Though I do welcome people join, but there's a pretty horrible criteria you have to have and that's why it's okay to spread the love there. So... don't ask. I'll invite you if I see the criteria.) Anyways, I really do try to tone down the jealousy though because I really don't like myself when I get that way.
I just found it interesting, to break things down to that word, "ownership." Because it sounds bad. But in actuality, it can have some very sweet endearing aspects. But yeah, I'd like to take this oppurtunity to lay claim on some of you friends of mine. Feel free to be mad at me for feeling like I own you, but it's only cause I love you ;)
So oddly enough, as much as I fight being told what to do, I like it when someone thinks they "own" me. Like for instance, parents. I like it when my parents would say something like, "that's my daughter," because they would say it out of pride. Or when they boast about my achievements to their friends, as if they were their own achievements. Now I realize that some people would be angry about that (as I am every once in a while...) because they didn't really have any direct connection to that achievement. However, they raised me. Without them, I don't exist. They've technically (though not entirely) molded me into the person I am today. So when I was younger, I would look to do things that would make them proud of me. And it goes both ways. As much as I complain about my mother, she is my mother. I love her. Or my sister. Although I don't technically own my sister, I feel that she is my sister and I'm very proud to be her sister. I feel like I own a little piece of each of them and I really cherish the honor of them letting me do so.
As for romantic relationships, I can see lots of people disagreeing with me on this because in that situation, ideally, the two people involved are equals. But to clarify, I feel that they can still be equals and "own" each other. It's when you really get the sense that they aren't equals (like when one does not respect the other) that you know there's something wrong there. But anyways, it can become a little more primal there, which isn't necessarily bad. For example, whenever I was dating someone, I really liked wearing something of theirs. For Brian, it was his spikey punk bracelet. For Cody, it was his t-shirt. And so on. (Just as a side note, I know some of you know that I like to randomly take guy's watches and wear them. I don't think of that as an ownership thing. I just like the weight and feel of men's watches, which you are allowed to think of as weird) And I knew that they liked seeing me wear these items because they felt that I was kind of theirs.
Now that brings me to something else. I am the jealous type, whether it be friends or boyfriends. And jealousy is a pretty primal thing. If there is something special that I have with someone, I'd rather it keep this something fairly exclusive, because it is our thing. Like Reed and I like to eat somewhere every once in a while, just the two of us. I like having that (though note that I adore his girlfriend and do enjoy it when the three of us do something). Or Cheena and I have our controversial "cupcake" club. It's our special thing. (Though I do welcome people join, but there's a pretty horrible criteria you have to have and that's why it's okay to spread the love there. So... don't ask. I'll invite you if I see the criteria.) Anyways, I really do try to tone down the jealousy though because I really don't like myself when I get that way.
I just found it interesting, to break things down to that word, "ownership." Because it sounds bad. But in actuality, it can have some very sweet endearing aspects. But yeah, I'd like to take this oppurtunity to lay claim on some of you friends of mine. Feel free to be mad at me for feeling like I own you, but it's only cause I love you ;)