Sometimes, when I stay up all night, things other than the day dawn on me.

[montecristo]

I'm playing a game I can't win

Comments

[seaspark]

Wow. That's quite pickle

Interesting. Now that's a meaty comment.

[montecristo]

For what you said about my motivations, A and B are flattering, so I'm all over those reasons. I think they tend to be true, but it's hard to be objective. I try not to compare myself to other people so C is a bit disturbing to consider. As for option D, I don't really need a cavebrain to consider that; I know it consciously. I know for a fact, for example, that my ex's desire for and ability to nurture and care for children was one of the things that made/makes her attractive to me.

As for the female side of the equation, what business of mine is it to figure them out? I'm curious as hell - don't get me wrong - but people are who and what they are for myriad reasons. I find it too easy to make mistakes about other people.

Figuring women out

[seaspark]

I think it's important not so much to figure out women (all women, all the time) as to understand your reaction and relation. Think of it as a means to gain insight into your own needs, motivations, and whatnot. Maybe then you can either do something differently (if you want a different outcome) or sit back and enjoy the ride with a measure of amusement or enlightenment. But I just created a business plan to take into account my patterns with men, so perhaps I'm not one to ask.

Re: Interesting. Now that's a meaty comment.

[vavaverity]

I agree with that person on A & B. I can totally see that in you.

[prettypoet43]

I think that no matter how together or self-sufficient we are as humans, all people need people. We don't need to be rescued. We need to be loved. Perhaps, these nurturing woman aren't so much rescuing as loving where there love is well received. I find you very kind and supportive, but not necessarily very "receptive." At any rate it is food for thought from a little fishy.

[montecristo]

You have a point. On the other hand, if you knew the people about whom I was thinking, maybe you might think my assessment isn't that far off. I don't know. I suppose, as insights go, that one isn't really absolute; I just thought I saw a pattern.

As for "receptive," there's that perspective of yours again. What's the difference between unreceptive and cautious? It's two different ways of looking at the same phenomenon and coming to entirely different evaluations. Food for thought, indeed.