parenting grief!
Ok so I need some advice...
Tyne is now 3 1/2 and his best mate is Kitty who lives down the street.
She is a feisty one and most of the time they have a good time together...
except...
She is mega competitive and manipulative and knows which of Tyne's buttons to push to send him into a violent rage. I am struggling to help him to understand that hitting her or some innocent bystander out of anger is not how he should act and that in fact that is what Kitty is trying to get him to do so that he gets into trouble.
I remove him from the volatile environment and try to calm him and explain to him that if he does it again then he will be punished.
I don't think that separating them is a solution. I feel that he needs to learn how to deal with this sort of manipulation. I am trying to make him understand that if Kitty starts to make him feel bad or angry, that he should walk away and do something else. If he ignores her then she will have no power over him and she can't make him angry or get him into trouble.
Perhaps he is too young for all this ... I'm not sure. There are times when he seems to understand but she is waaay too good at the manipulation game..even for me!!!!!
There are times when I wish he would just beat the crap out of her to teach her a lesson!!!
We have come down hard on tyne about the violence and it always makes me feel as tho we are playing into her hands.
I knoe this makes her sound evil and she's not.She is a great kid and we all love her. It's just a situation that I am struggling with!
sigh
Tyne is now 3 1/2 and his best mate is Kitty who lives down the street.
She is a feisty one and most of the time they have a good time together...
except...
She is mega competitive and manipulative and knows which of Tyne's buttons to push to send him into a violent rage. I am struggling to help him to understand that hitting her or some innocent bystander out of anger is not how he should act and that in fact that is what Kitty is trying to get him to do so that he gets into trouble.
I remove him from the volatile environment and try to calm him and explain to him that if he does it again then he will be punished.
I don't think that separating them is a solution. I feel that he needs to learn how to deal with this sort of manipulation. I am trying to make him understand that if Kitty starts to make him feel bad or angry, that he should walk away and do something else. If he ignores her then she will have no power over him and she can't make him angry or get him into trouble.
Perhaps he is too young for all this ... I'm not sure. There are times when he seems to understand but she is waaay too good at the manipulation game..even for me!!!!!
There are times when I wish he would just beat the crap out of her to teach her a lesson!!!
We have come down hard on tyne about the violence and it always makes me feel as tho we are playing into her hands.
I knoe this makes her sound evil and she's not.She is a great kid and we all love her. It's just a situation that I am struggling with!
sigh