Internal therapist at work, if this applies..think about it.
Ever notice when you go through a life changing event how friends suddenly seem to treat you differently? In reflection though is it them treating you differently or is it that you, having undergone this life changing event, have alienated your friends. That, quite possibly in the midsts of your joy/sorrow/whatever you've ranted/bragged/verbally vomited so much they have reached their threshold, and for their own mental health have put some distance between you? Or perhaps while your ranted Etc, you pulled away from them?
Sometimes whether we want it or not friends drift in directions that make 'tight contact' nigh impossible. This can make you crazy, especially if the friendship is an old one. You may just focus on how this is effecting you and blame all the separation on them so whenever you do get a chance to speak it ends in an argument, you don't hear them and all they hear from you is a rambling bunch of incoherent nonsense.
It's hard to stop thinking about yourself, your feelings, your perspective, what this disconnect in a friendship has done to you. If you get a moment to speak with them again take a step back, a deep breath, and let them talk. Listen without interruption, make mental notes on what you're unclear about. Let the desire to keep this friend outweigh your need to verbally smack them around. I think the rest is self explanatory.
Friends, real friends are the family members you CHOOSE.
Sometimes whether we want it or not friends drift in directions that make 'tight contact' nigh impossible. This can make you crazy, especially if the friendship is an old one. You may just focus on how this is effecting you and blame all the separation on them so whenever you do get a chance to speak it ends in an argument, you don't hear them and all they hear from you is a rambling bunch of incoherent nonsense.
It's hard to stop thinking about yourself, your feelings, your perspective, what this disconnect in a friendship has done to you. If you get a moment to speak with them again take a step back, a deep breath, and let them talk. Listen without interruption, make mental notes on what you're unclear about. Let the desire to keep this friend outweigh your need to verbally smack them around. I think the rest is self explanatory.
Friends, real friends are the family members you CHOOSE.