You will eventually resent her if you decide to give up on what you want, when you didn't really want to give up. Your mental health is just as important as anything else. Will she really be *that* put out by moving back to MI? I think she'll survive just fine. A relationship with one person happy is no fun at all. Sacrifices and compromises are a requirement for a solid relationship.
Sounds like there are more legitimate reasons to go to MI then stay where you are. Maybe you need to explain to her, if you haven't already, just how important this is to you. Maybe she thinks this is just an "idea" of yours, and not something you really *want* or *need* to do.
"Too close to your mother" is a weak excuse. No one said your mom had to drop by every day or anything. If she feels the need to, and your wife would really hate that, you should talk to your mom about it. Abigail needs a happy daddy...she will notice that you're unhappy/miserable. Kids always sense an undercurrent of 'stuff' going on with their parents.
Regardless of what happens, good luck with things. Just remember that loving someone is not reason enough to give up on something that you really want/need.
Your mental health is just as important as anything else. Will she really be *that* put out by moving back to MI?
I think she'll survive just fine. A relationship with one person happy is no fun at all. Sacrifices and compromises
are a requirement for a solid relationship.
Sounds like there are more legitimate reasons to go to MI then stay where you are. Maybe you need to explain
to her, if you haven't already, just how important this is to you. Maybe she thinks this is just an "idea" of yours,
and not something you really *want* or *need* to do.
"Too close to your mother" is a weak excuse. No one said your mom had to drop by every day or anything. If she
feels the need to, and your wife would really hate that, you should talk to your mom about it. Abigail needs a happy
daddy...she will notice that you're unhappy/miserable. Kids always sense an undercurrent of 'stuff' going
on with their parents.
Regardless of what happens, good luck with things. Just remember that loving someone is not reason
enough to give up on something that you really want/need.
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