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[momtozoe]

So there is this absurd catfight going on on the WC because some women posted in Parenting about how they hate being pregnant, and someone in the Still At It thread couldn't get over the nerve of these women to be complaining when so many others wish they could be pregnant. I was going to respond but then I remembered my policy of always staying

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[xwjh1]

That is ridiculous. I get so frustrated when women who are struggling with infertility don't take responsibility for their own feelings and instead blame others for their own distress. I've had fertility problems as long or longer than just about anyone on WC, and I've seen a bunch of women get pregnant, have babies, and some of them do it all over again. Yes, it can hurt to read that sort of thing. It's hard to read about pregnancy complaints. But the solution isn't for others not to get pregnant, not to talk about their pregnancies, not to complain about the unpleasant realities of pregnancy. The solution is for those of us with fertility issues to be careful where we allow ourselves to go. If we see a thread about hating pregnancy, I think we can safely assume that it will not have a positive impact on us, and if we're not in the frame of mind to handle that well, we shouldn't read on. It's our responsibility to avoid the Parenting forum when we need to, to avoid WC or LJ when we need to protect ourselves. I have to look out for myself, it's nobody's job but mine, and I have a responsibility to myself. There are some things in life that we can't avoid, but distress sparked by a WC thread is totally avoidable. And even if it weren't, sometimes we need to hold our tongues.

[xwjh1]

Eeek. Can you tell that's a sore spot of mine? I haven't read the WC craziness, and I don't think I will.

Just wait, some of the ladies complaining about the complainers will end up complaining themselves once they get pregnant!

[momtozoe]

Thanks for saying that, Jenny. I didn't want to come across like I wasn't deeply sympathetic to all the women struggling with infertility. It was more a frustration with the WC, which I can't get off of, of course. ;)