Comments | mollywogged: A death in the family

mollywogged

A death in the family

Jul 28, 2007 23:24

My Grandma Agnes, Catherine's mom, died this morning a few minutes after six. She had at least four different types of infection in her body for the past week, and two of those started about a month to six weeks ago. In the end, it's a good thing that Agnes has died; she wasn't living a particularly enjoyable life for the past couple of weeks ( Read more... )

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conelrad_chic July 29 2007, 05:52:54 UTC

Aw...I'm sorry, Molls. It's awful, I know.

Don't hold it against Catherine or your mom that they didn't tell
you immediately; if anything, they probably didn't want to
stop you from having a good, happy day before the depressing wake/funeral process begins. I do know that a person's mind tends to go on "automatic" at these times (lots of paperwork to get through, plans to make, etc.) and can forget normally obvious things, like calling you.

The best thing you can do for Catherine is to just be supportive, not get upset if she's cranky (it won't be personal), and help out around the house when you can...but take some time out for yourself, too.

Hang in there. She sounds like she was a great lady~

mollywogged July 31 2007, 00:37:10 UTC

Thanks so much, Laura, and we did have a great day at the Science Museum on Saturday. Pompeii was so much fun and so interesting. I loved it that you and me were getting our share of history, and Michelle got her fill of the human body and biology; Saturday was perfect.

Things are still a little crazy at home, but Catherine's siblings have finally stepped in and are helping with almost all the plans for the wake and the funeral. Of course, they couldn't or didn't want to help when Agnes was still alive, but now that she died they were willing to help. That was a huge relief to Catherine, mom and me. We were also able to do some cleaning on Sunday because nobody had to be at the nursing home with Agnes; I feel less harried and our house looks like less of a disaster now.

Your advice still rocks.

olly20082 July 30 2007, 22:37:45 UTC

I am so sorry to hear this. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you!

mollywogged July 31 2007, 00:41:22 UTC

If you were in the Twin Cities or even Minnesota you'd be welcome to come and spend some time with me. Mostly right now I just need to be spending time with my family and extended family for the wake Wednesday night and the funeral on Thursday afternoon, but at other times when I'm not at work, I'd love to be spending time with friends rather than alone.

But, sadly, you're not in Minnesota right now as far as I know. What you can do is talk to me about how I'm feeling about my grandma the next time we run into each other online and have time to talk. Ask me to tell you something amazing about her; I want to be sure I never forget all the amazing things I did with her in the last 9 years of her life (because that's how long I've known her). Thanks for the support, Kim!

olly20082 July 31 2007, 19:51:36 UTC

That's a great idea. I wish people would ask me more about my Grampa, because they all didn't seem to care, therefore, I felt bad going on and on about him. So tell me about your grandma and how amazing she was, cause I know how amazing grandparents are and what if feels like to lose one and not have anyone seem to want to hear about them.