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[moki]

inebriated might not be the best state to be thinking about things like this, but, as the saying goes: in vino veritas. i realized that a lot of the friends whom i had were not real friends. i'd invested a lot in these friendships, and nothing. a few years, months or even weeks of being busy and not seeing each other, and now it's as if we're not

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[maxwerx]

I sympathize with what you're saying here. I believe it's why people eventually have to learn to value solitude at some point in their lives. (Good Latin choice of music, by the way! Hehehe.)

I wonder if one also has to consider why the friendship happened in the first place. Was it because both parties wanted to be friends? Or perhaps one party wanted to build a friendship while the other party just "went along with it" because of some variable (e.g., both parties are taking the same elective, both know the friend of a friend, whatever). In other words, maybe it wasn't really a friendship but was merely a temporary social link? I guess we do have to be careful about which friendships we choose to invest in. After all, a person can invest all he or she wants in a friendship only to realize that the other party never wanted it to be a lasting friendship at all.

But then again, human beings are rarely mathematically tuned clockwork machines; one rarely gets (and really shouldn't expect to get) X amount of benefit for each Y amount of investment. Investments always carry risk, and investing in people is risky, but surely there are times when investment (including the "it wasn't meant to last, but it was good while it lasted" kind of investment), if done in moderation, can be its own reward (and can be a nice way to pass a few quality hours on our way to the gates of hell)?

[maxwerx]

Yikes. Just saw your comment. That person is not a very good person! It sounds like the kind of person who deserves neither friendship nor human compassion.

Move on. :) I recommend listening to some happy music. :)