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I came across this particular news item tonight... it's not particularly important, it's just about the patterns of male friendship.
"If we use a women’s paradigm for friendship, we’re making a mistake," says Geoffrey Greif, a professor at the University of Maryland’s School of Social Work, who has studied how 386 men made, kept and nurtured friendships.
What struck me is that for how many *hundreds* of years, the male model of pretty much everything was considered normal, and females as a whole were considered deviant. In fact, it can be argued that this is still the case in many situations, where male is the default.
And now some guy is complaining that society doesn't understand male friendships because we're assessing them based on a female model. Well, first of all, I think there are about a billion terrible romantic comedies that beg to differ. Secondly, get over it! Women have had to deal with that shit for hundreds of years. Why don't you do something productive, like strive for a new model that doesn't involve making one sex out to be a lesser sex.
Ugh.
"If we use a women’s paradigm for friendship, we’re making a mistake," says Geoffrey Greif, a professor at the University of Maryland’s School of Social Work, who has studied how 386 men made, kept and nurtured friendships.
What struck me is that for how many *hundreds* of years, the male model of pretty much everything was considered normal, and females as a whole were considered deviant. In fact, it can be argued that this is still the case in many situations, where male is the default.
And now some guy is complaining that society doesn't understand male friendships because we're assessing them based on a female model. Well, first of all, I think there are about a billion terrible romantic comedies that beg to differ. Secondly, get over it! Women have had to deal with that shit for hundreds of years. Why don't you do something productive, like strive for a new model that doesn't involve making one sex out to be a lesser sex.
Ugh.