I'm a Scorpio with, I believe, Libra ascendant, and I spent all of high school believing that I was hideous and with horrible personality flaws.
It wasn't until late high school/early college that I found out that I gave off an unapproachable vibe that made guys think I was either a lesbian or waiting to shoot them down. Hilariously, I got told by totally different sets of guys that I flirt without really intending to and give off that signal and then abruptly shut them down. LOL.
I also am very shy and get a little weirded out by looking people in the eye too much, so I end up coming across as distracted unless I'm really trying hard not to be.
Sadly, the thing that makes me into a social butterfly that people like? A glass or two of wine. Not really the best solution, but hasn't turned me into an alcoholic yet.
It's kind of funny that you say that. Pisceans are known for being prone to addictions, which I've always sort of felt about myself. So I actually kind of don't drink, as a personal rule. Also, ultra-conservative background, my dad had to deal with a father who was an alcoholic blah blah blah uninteresting drama/history/whatever. But it's too bad, because it would probably help, lol. ;D
It's just as well, really! In the process of finding out that a very little bit of alcohol makes me into a social butterfly, I first had to learn that too much of it makes me into an idiot with bad judgment. MUCH more embarrassing situations than shyness ever led to. D:
I'm sure relaxation techniques could eventually accomplish the same thing more deliberately and reliably.
I might have to try that-- the thought never occurred to me. I guess I assumed that relaxation techniques would help more with the heart palpatations/sweaty palms kind of problems, as opposed to simply feeling like you have nothing interesting to say. But maybe it would. I should at least look into it.
I think at least in my case, a glass of wine just calms me down enough to stop the ongoing chatter in my head that second-guesses me before I can make interesting conversation. So it makes sense that if I could just start from a calm/relaxed place I'd automatically do that all of the time.
It wasn't until late high school/early college that I found out that I gave off an unapproachable vibe that made guys think I was either a lesbian or waiting to shoot them down. Hilariously, I got told by totally different sets of guys that I flirt without really intending to and give off that signal and then abruptly shut them down. LOL.
I also am very shy and get a little weirded out by looking people in the eye too much, so I end up coming across as distracted unless I'm really trying hard not to be.
Sadly, the thing that makes me into a social butterfly that people like? A glass or two of wine. Not really the best solution, but hasn't turned me into an alcoholic yet.
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I'm sure relaxation techniques could eventually accomplish the same thing more deliberately and reliably.
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