Put my WHAT dress on?
Hey, guys! I have a question.
Today through various adventures in clicking on links, I discovered Beyonce's song Freakum Dress. A fun song, that. XD
It did bring to my attention that I do not own a "Freakum Dress," though she specifically says that every woman does in the video. Now, just to clarify, I did not actually take that seriously, but it did make me wonder if there was some reason I didn't have one. And the truth is, well... I don't feel like I'm allowed.
Now don't get me wrong; I have lots of dresses that I like. I have dresses that make me feel pretty, some that even make me feel a little sexy. But they're pretty conservative, and not inherently sexy in themselves. They're less "going clubbing and driving guys crazy on the dance floor" and more "looking nice when I go to a nice restaurant/charity auction/night at the theatre."
The reason(s)? Well, for one, I can't say I do much clubbing. But more than that, I think it's my weight.
I've always been told (and been of the opinion myself) that people should wear things that are "flattering" on them. And being slightly on the big side, I've often taken that to mean covering everything up. Have you noticed that in advertising? ("This dress/blouse/pair of jeans/skirt/swimsut is flattering for curvy girls because it hides tummy flab/big thighs/big butt/arm flab!")
I totally get that. And I've totally bought into it. But I suddenly wonder if I've been sent mixed messages?
I'm supposed to love my body no matter what's on it. I'm supposed to love it when nothing's on it. And I want a lover someday who loves it when nothing's on it, too. So here's my question...
Should overweight girls like myself "be allowed" to wear sexy/revealing clothing? Or should we sacrifice sex appeal for flattering?
It's not a rhetorical question. I really can't decide.
I think it's wrong to judge what a girl looks like, especially her size, based on what she's wearing. But it seems like even the nicest and most accepting of us will often sigh and think, "Oh, she'd just look so much prettier if she covered up those big thighs. I wish she would do that for herself."
Thoughts?
Today through various adventures in clicking on links, I discovered Beyonce's song Freakum Dress. A fun song, that. XD
It did bring to my attention that I do not own a "Freakum Dress," though she specifically says that every woman does in the video. Now, just to clarify, I did not actually take that seriously, but it did make me wonder if there was some reason I didn't have one. And the truth is, well... I don't feel like I'm allowed.
Now don't get me wrong; I have lots of dresses that I like. I have dresses that make me feel pretty, some that even make me feel a little sexy. But they're pretty conservative, and not inherently sexy in themselves. They're less "going clubbing and driving guys crazy on the dance floor" and more "looking nice when I go to a nice restaurant/charity auction/night at the theatre."
The reason(s)? Well, for one, I can't say I do much clubbing. But more than that, I think it's my weight.
I've always been told (and been of the opinion myself) that people should wear things that are "flattering" on them. And being slightly on the big side, I've often taken that to mean covering everything up. Have you noticed that in advertising? ("This dress/blouse/pair of jeans/skirt/swimsut is flattering for curvy girls because it hides tummy flab/big thighs/big butt/arm flab!")
I totally get that. And I've totally bought into it. But I suddenly wonder if I've been sent mixed messages?
I'm supposed to love my body no matter what's on it. I'm supposed to love it when nothing's on it. And I want a lover someday who loves it when nothing's on it, too. So here's my question...
Should overweight girls like myself "be allowed" to wear sexy/revealing clothing? Or should we sacrifice sex appeal for flattering?
It's not a rhetorical question. I really can't decide.
I think it's wrong to judge what a girl looks like, especially her size, based on what she's wearing. But it seems like even the nicest and most accepting of us will often sigh and think, "Oh, she'd just look so much prettier if she covered up those big thighs. I wish she would do that for herself."
Thoughts?