Out of Sight, Out of This Place, It Does You No Good To Be Here
So, keeping touch with people is fucking hard. I feel very guilty for not keeping touch with people from school, for example, but I don't how precisely how guilty I SHOULD feel about that. The argument is one that puts undue emphasis on exactly whose responsibility it is to make contact first - this is an odd one, because, save in circumstances where the person is an ex or something, there shouldn't be any emphasis here. You should just contact one another.
There's again a bit of a problem, because after a certain amount of time, it feels weird to just message someone, or ring them up, or what have you. Also the thought is inevitable that it isn't your responsibility to rebuild lost bridges, because 'they haven't contacted you either'. This is probably justifiable, but not entirely healthy, nor is it helpful. This sort of thing is felt on either side of the divide (Either side of the divide, yeah! Dum, tchk kum ka, ts Dum, dum tchk kum ka!) and so you kind of lose touch irrevocably.
It's now been 2 years since I've seen some of my closest friends from school in any real, conversational sense. I've kept in touch with pretty much everyone from Pates, I think, and I keep in touch pretty well with the people from Denmark Road. It strikes me that most of the people that I keep in touch with are women, and that brings up another issue. Perhaps that's another story for another time.
There's again a bit of a problem, because after a certain amount of time, it feels weird to just message someone, or ring them up, or what have you. Also the thought is inevitable that it isn't your responsibility to rebuild lost bridges, because 'they haven't contacted you either'. This is probably justifiable, but not entirely healthy, nor is it helpful. This sort of thing is felt on either side of the divide (Either side of the divide, yeah! Dum, tchk kum ka, ts Dum, dum tchk kum ka!) and so you kind of lose touch irrevocably.
It's now been 2 years since I've seen some of my closest friends from school in any real, conversational sense. I've kept in touch with pretty much everyone from Pates, I think, and I keep in touch pretty well with the people from Denmark Road. It strikes me that most of the people that I keep in touch with are women, and that brings up another issue. Perhaps that's another story for another time.