When My Strongest Relations Pull on Our Connecting Ropes
So my friend was talking about how their parents might be splitting up and how it was worrying them.
Attempting to diffuse any concern, I mentioned something akin to, "Well, it's their issue, really, and I guess supporting each of them in the moment is the best you can do. There's nothing really to worry about."
And my friend replied, "Well, it's just that I'm so close to them, you know? It's a little tense when the people you love and have strong relationships with are sad or depressed or scared or otherwise out of their sense of peace."
I agreed.
Later, I realized that this phenomenon is a part of the reason of why I'm heading back to Jersey.
I could live out here for cheap and party and grow with my friends out here and do decent permaculture business and never have to drive a car, I am sure.
I am also sure that I could go live on an ecovillage somewhere and release much of my stored stress & tension & avoid creating more by doing yoga and giving/getting massages and playing music and getting in touch with god = the present moment, via nature awareness & via the heightening of my senses (smell, taste, touch, sight, hearing, vibe & the integration of these (and more) into an intuitive feeling) and learning more techniques of healing (releasing tension & fear-based patterns while creating good patterns): touch, energy work, herbal medicine, peacemaking communication, and more.
And all those things sound great, it is just that if my family (whom didn't choose me and loves me anyway, and whom I didn't choose and love anyway) and my hometown friends (whose kindred spirit & the chance of geography brought me + them together) aren't the happiest people I know, then how can I truly be happy?
These are the relationships I have built over a long period of time, the 'ropes' that were once twine and are now thick, marine-anchor-quality/old-skool rope swing. They are very strong and I will always be deeply connected to them, and they to me, regardless of whether we "keep up" with each other.
If the people (creatures, and places) at the other end of these thick ropes are not in peace, they lean a little bit and create tension on our rope, whether I'm there or not, to keep steady. The ones who've got a lot of strong ropes, well, their pull on our connecting rope is tiny, since it's spread around. However, the ones with only a few ropes pull quite a bit to keep steady. And it's nothing like through phone calls or begging or whatever, it's energetically. It's just this pulsing concentric ring of unease that they are sending out to all of their relations, via tension on all their ropes.
If I stayed out here or moved to an ecovillage away from the New Jersey area, in order to stay sane I could: cut all my ropes with my beloved, or delude myself that I could be at peace while not acknowledging those jenky vibes or perhaps acknowledge them in some way that has a beneficial effect on both me and them that has not dawned on me yet.
Actually, the concept of keeping an unknown option for all things to be good as is is something that had never come to me before. :1, I really like keeping that open, heh.
Still, I love my parents, I love my brothers, and I love my high school friends and I'm super looking forward to being a part of their lives and them being a part of mine. Mutually Beneficial Relationships! Huzzah!
To be honest, I'm really in need of pulling on them, too. I have grown and learned a great deal and I see my life now as a creative interaction that is a joyous (mutually beneficial), continuous learning experience.
I feel inspired to share this with my family & friends. I also feel that it would be a great relief to be certain that my people are expanding enjoying their own journeys, in their own way, :1.
Attempting to diffuse any concern, I mentioned something akin to, "Well, it's their issue, really, and I guess supporting each of them in the moment is the best you can do. There's nothing really to worry about."
And my friend replied, "Well, it's just that I'm so close to them, you know? It's a little tense when the people you love and have strong relationships with are sad or depressed or scared or otherwise out of their sense of peace."
I agreed.
Later, I realized that this phenomenon is a part of the reason of why I'm heading back to Jersey.
I could live out here for cheap and party and grow with my friends out here and do decent permaculture business and never have to drive a car, I am sure.
I am also sure that I could go live on an ecovillage somewhere and release much of my stored stress & tension & avoid creating more by doing yoga and giving/getting massages and playing music and getting in touch with god = the present moment, via nature awareness & via the heightening of my senses (smell, taste, touch, sight, hearing, vibe & the integration of these (and more) into an intuitive feeling) and learning more techniques of healing (releasing tension & fear-based patterns while creating good patterns): touch, energy work, herbal medicine, peacemaking communication, and more.
And all those things sound great, it is just that if my family (whom didn't choose me and loves me anyway, and whom I didn't choose and love anyway) and my hometown friends (whose kindred spirit & the chance of geography brought me + them together) aren't the happiest people I know, then how can I truly be happy?
These are the relationships I have built over a long period of time, the 'ropes' that were once twine and are now thick, marine-anchor-quality/old-skool rope swing. They are very strong and I will always be deeply connected to them, and they to me, regardless of whether we "keep up" with each other.
If the people (creatures, and places) at the other end of these thick ropes are not in peace, they lean a little bit and create tension on our rope, whether I'm there or not, to keep steady. The ones who've got a lot of strong ropes, well, their pull on our connecting rope is tiny, since it's spread around. However, the ones with only a few ropes pull quite a bit to keep steady. And it's nothing like through phone calls or begging or whatever, it's energetically. It's just this pulsing concentric ring of unease that they are sending out to all of their relations, via tension on all their ropes.
If I stayed out here or moved to an ecovillage away from the New Jersey area, in order to stay sane I could: cut all my ropes with my beloved, or delude myself that I could be at peace while not acknowledging those jenky vibes or perhaps acknowledge them in some way that has a beneficial effect on both me and them that has not dawned on me yet.
Actually, the concept of keeping an unknown option for all things to be good as is is something that had never come to me before. :1, I really like keeping that open, heh.
Still, I love my parents, I love my brothers, and I love my high school friends and I'm super looking forward to being a part of their lives and them being a part of mine. Mutually Beneficial Relationships! Huzzah!
To be honest, I'm really in need of pulling on them, too. I have grown and learned a great deal and I see my life now as a creative interaction that is a joyous (mutually beneficial), continuous learning experience.
I feel inspired to share this with my family & friends. I also feel that it would be a great relief to be certain that my people are expanding enjoying their own journeys, in their own way, :1.