So, ummm, the moral of the story is what???

[mizzbeehive1963]

Had another Mpowerment meeting last night. It lasted three hours, and almost nothing got accomplished. The first half an hour was just talking about whatever and waiting for any stragglers, and when none came we went to Subway for dinner, and Sami saw us walking there, so he was able to catch up with us relatively fast... So that took another half an hour, if not more, just to decide what to eat and get back, and then we didn't really accomplish anything while we were eating either. In the three hours of our meeting we accomplished four things, and of those four things, only one was even remotely worth the time, and another was basically necessary for us to meet again... Accomplishment number one: creating a list of possible names for the group, which will be voted on at the NEXT meeting, ::sigh:: , so that didn't get us very far. Accomplishment number two: we created a list of possible social events that we wanted to do to recruit new members. We then voted on which one we would like to do, and we decided we would have a movie night. However, we didn't decide on which movie (or movies) we would watch, or even when we would watch them, so whatever. Accomplishment number three was worth it: creating a phone tree in case of emergency or in case information needed to be spread more rapidly than through normal email or other channels of communication. Accomplishment number four took way to long to get to a conclusion about: when our next meeting would be! I can understand not having another meeting until the start of the new year and waiting until January. From now until then it would just be crazy to try and shove another meeting in. However, arguing about meeting frequency is just silly, and please do understand that I do like the idea of having weekly meetings, I like routine, and having it that often and on a regular basis like that will make it easier for me to make it. But eventually deciding on and concluding that every other week was just fine too, and it doesn't bother me to have it that often. And we might even eventually move to every week, and that would be great too. But if, at the moment, it is convenient and only necessary to have meetings every other week, that is great too, so it is ok, lets just relax. Maybe I'm to easy going and should have been more forceful and said, "Hey, I want meetings every week too?" But events like PFLAG and Deaf Mall are just something that I find to hard to remember to get to, and only having them on a once a month basis makes it just to hard for me to take the time out of my schedule to remember to go, even if I do have the free time to go. Maybe I'm just lazy? Having meetings every two weeks should work out just fine though, and it should be frequent enough for me to get into the habit of going. But despite the fact that it felt like we didn't accomplish much, the time went by really rather quickly, and I enjoy being around these people, and we did actually spend time doing things, they just weren't things that were in the plan. We talked a lot about Mikes issues, if issues is even the proper word for it, about guys, and so in that regard things got done. And that is why all in all, I like being a part of things like this--->creating a space where guys can talk about issues revolving around gay relationships. Its just frustrating when we don't get the other stupid necessary technical things done and out of the way so that we can get to the more meaningful things. Or even the silly things, and joking around and just being relaxed. I hope that makes sense... Feel like I rambled on and on...

But anyways, I think the moral of the story is: I like having group meetings, even if they last three hours, BUT, focus on the business and get it out of the way fast, THEN get around to the good part of the meeting: talking about whatever is on our minds--->relationships, guys, (safer?) sex, etc., etc., etc., because I do really rather enjoy spending time with these guys, at least that is what I would like to think the moral of the story is.