Statement of the day
"It's one thing to do the right thing, but it's another to do the right thing, and then make things right."
(Sorry Lhu XD I just realized that that statement was really cool for me)
When something isn't fair or isn't just, when someone is hurting you, it is absolutely ok to stand your ground and speak your mind. But there may certainly be people who oppose you, don't want to listen, or are angry to have lost a sense of pride. I really believe that these people truly want to get better, truly want peace and happiness, and naturally want you to be happy as well. Sometimes the feelings of guilt and shame and anger get in the way of this, and it's hard for the person you're confronting to show this desire.
In such a situation, I think it is ok to apologize to that person. Not for what you did or why you did it, but for the anger and for the hurt feelings. After all, you want them to be happy too, right? Nothing heals a person more than acknowledging their suffering, and offering understanding. Acknowledge the hurt feelings, and explain what you observed and the change you desire to see from a peaceful, loving, guiding perspective. We all desire to love and be loved, to be free, and to evolve and become more wise, more loving, and more free. This is the same for everything in the entire universe. Remember this when you speak your mind, because when your own emotions have quelled, it may be time to shed light and rise up the situation at hand. That's what I mean by "It's one thing to 'do the right thing', but it's another to 'do the right thing', and 'make things right'. "
Also, it's important to keep an open mind. Because what might be right in one moment may be not-so-right or even wrong in the next. We're evolving and changing, and the changing of what is right only leads to more understanding. Be confident and assured in your progress, but don't stick to your truths as if there can be no other. Actively and continuously create your universe.
(Sorry Lhu XD I just realized that that statement was really cool for me)
When something isn't fair or isn't just, when someone is hurting you, it is absolutely ok to stand your ground and speak your mind. But there may certainly be people who oppose you, don't want to listen, or are angry to have lost a sense of pride. I really believe that these people truly want to get better, truly want peace and happiness, and naturally want you to be happy as well. Sometimes the feelings of guilt and shame and anger get in the way of this, and it's hard for the person you're confronting to show this desire.
In such a situation, I think it is ok to apologize to that person. Not for what you did or why you did it, but for the anger and for the hurt feelings. After all, you want them to be happy too, right? Nothing heals a person more than acknowledging their suffering, and offering understanding. Acknowledge the hurt feelings, and explain what you observed and the change you desire to see from a peaceful, loving, guiding perspective. We all desire to love and be loved, to be free, and to evolve and become more wise, more loving, and more free. This is the same for everything in the entire universe. Remember this when you speak your mind, because when your own emotions have quelled, it may be time to shed light and rise up the situation at hand. That's what I mean by "It's one thing to 'do the right thing', but it's another to 'do the right thing', and 'make things right'. "
Also, it's important to keep an open mind. Because what might be right in one moment may be not-so-right or even wrong in the next. We're evolving and changing, and the changing of what is right only leads to more understanding. Be confident and assured in your progress, but don't stick to your truths as if there can be no other. Actively and continuously create your universe.