Letter to my child If he ever comes out....

Jan 30, 2012 07:33

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bullying, coming out, mother & child, lgbt issues

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beauty_forashes January 30 2012, 13:13:41 UTC
"P.S. We thought we should mention, honey, that if you're straight, that's okay too. I mean, it'd be a little anti-climactic now, honestly. But your father and I will deal."

ROFL!

Good article, though, she makes a lot of important points.

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mitakay January 30 2012, 16:19:05 UTC
Yes, that line cracked me up.

As a parent myself, I wish that more parents could feel this way...
I think she is so right when she says how preventing bullying in schools has to start at home.

I wish all parents of young children could read this essay- perhaps it could get through to some people, make them think twice.

It seems to be getting passed around on FB and such, so that's a good thing.

Hope you are doing well!! :)

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pet0511 January 30 2012, 13:21:37 UTC
Thanks for sharing this article. It makes me laugh and cry, too, and even gives me hope that probably there are more so-called christians out there who really THINK.
HUGS to NYC!!!!
Pet

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mitakay January 30 2012, 16:20:24 UTC
This was a very powerful essay, right? ITA with so much that she says.
Glad it gave you hope!
xoxo

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highd January 30 2012, 16:25:52 UTC
I applaud her feelings but her need to turn this potential event in her son's life into a sermon made me itch.

ETA:There isn't anything wrong with religion if you are a believer, I just have real problems with it's use here. Personally I would want this moment to be between me, my husband and my child and not wrapped up with something as big and confusing as Christianity, especially with how most christians free about homosexuality.

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mitakay January 30 2012, 17:23:12 UTC
I don't really think it was meant to sound like a "sermon"- this woman writes essays on many many topics, and she was just trying to get her points across.
She was saying that even though she & her husband were church going Christians, they did not agree with those who say "the Bible says homosexuality is a sin" as an excuse to believe that gay people are "less than."
I can understand how a teen who has very religious parents might be quite afraid to tell their parents that they are gay...and it's such a shame.

I thought this essay was a great read, written in a way to get people THINKING.

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pam81 January 30 2012, 17:52:47 UTC
Standing ovation for this article!
So glad you gave us the link.

Thank you ♥

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mitakay January 30 2012, 23:26:42 UTC
Yes, definitely worthy of a standing ovation.
It's a great read- I hope LOTS of people get to read it.
xoxo

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bigj52 January 31 2012, 02:49:33 UTC
I thought this was very insightful. Lots of things she mentioned that I would never have thought of. Will pass this around. I have Christian friends who have never asked about my son since he came out which puzzles me no end.

My son's partner has Catholic parents who had a bit of a problem with his being gay and with David at first. But they ended up going on a weekend retreat with other parents of gay kids to get a better understanding of their son. I thought that was brave and I admired them for that. They accepted him long ago and treat him like one of the family.

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mitakay January 31 2012, 04:07:50 UTC
Yes, the essay really got me thinking, and I want to share this with everyone!

That's a shame that certain friends have been hesitant to talk about your son with you...you should send them this essay, LOL!

Thanks for sharing your story- I was happy to learn that the parents of David's partner really made an effort (wow- a weekend retreat? that's fabulous!) and have now fully accepted their son & yours! I applaud them for being able to adapt, learn & grow.

**hugs**

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