Good Deed For The Day
Well I did my good deed for the day.I have a friend(and i use the term loosely) who lives down the road.She is my age,is married to a 40-42 year old man(who has been an alcoholic)and has 3 kids,2 of which are his.They live like trash.Seriously.The place they rent is a 2 bedroom one bath shack.and most of the time her mother in law lives there too.cozy huh?well if that weren't bad enough,they also have 10,yes 10,indoor cats,plus 2 large dogs that have only recently been kicked outside.The place is a disaster.The year before last he got sent to jail for like 6 months for supposedly hitting her while drunk(still don't have the real story on that)since he's gotten out he has barely worked at all,and continued to drink and be a jackass.And he is one of those people who should NEVER drink.He becomes an evil evil person.So anyways,bout the beginning of this summer,I helped her take the kids to a shelter to get away from him.less than 2 weeks later,she sends the kids back to him and stays gone.I was PISSED.the only reason i helped her was because of the kids.So over her summer abroad she had a boyfriend,slept on the street was crazy and started taking classes for becoming a RNA or something.was proud of her for that.well...right about the end of summer,the stupid bitch goes back to him.I was NOT happy.But you know,whatever.not my life,not my kids.And BTW she's not a very good mother.She let he son walk to school when he was in kindergarten,because it was too much trouble to get the girls up and dressed.so lazy.So for the most part i have been trying to stay distant as possible from her.I was tired of worrying about her and her kids.Well she would still call me every now and then (compared to the used to be everyday)but she only seemed to call when she needed something.And she was very passive aggressive about.She would mention the problem in the hopes that i would run to the rescue somehow(which i kinda used to do before....)i have been really trying not to cave in.She even came to my house the other day asking for $200 for the light bill.she said the money was supposed to be in there that day but wuldn't be till the next day and they would pay me back.they probably would have,but there's no telling so i told them i didn't have it.which was fine even though i felt terribly guilty for the kids,cause they got it from someone else.anyways...that is just some of the background of what i have been dealing with.So today she calls me almost in tears.Her only pair of shoes had a major blowout.Almost the entire sole was ripped off.Her husband(who has not been drinking surprisingly) has had his hours cut.They are gonna have to go to toys for tots for christmas.Her 2 girls had gotten a few things from people but not her boy who will be 8 in a couple weeks.They don't even have the money to buy a $5 present for him to participate in the gift exchange at school.I didn't say much at first just made the appropriate noises at the right times.Talked about some other things then got off the phone.Well it was really bugging me.i really feel like she tells me these things sometimes to be manipulative.To make mefeel bad and do something about it.I can't tell for sure.She could just need someone to talk to.i doubt it but maybe.So i called my sister in law and talked to her about it and she made me realize that whatever her motives,whatever she may or may not deserve....it doesn't matter.Here was a woman with no shoes and a child with no presents.It didn't matter who they were.So i went to the dollar store and bought her a pair of shoes and i bought marshall a present for christmas and a present for school.It cost me less than $20.i swear she almost cried when i gave them to her.It made me feel good and THAT was what mattered.I knew that i had done something nice for someone who needed something nice done for them.True,most of their"misfortune" is their own fault,but it doesn't matter.It was just a really nice feeling.