Later...
Well, he called, came back and we talked for a loooong time. Basically it involved me pacing around telling him the facts of what happened and how it affected stuff and him lying on my bed crying because he thought i was breaking up with him.
I wasn't anything but honest. I said that in normal circumstances, yes i would be breaking up with him. However, because i happen to be deeply in love with him and still see a future between us that works-that made things different. We're not done yet.
We made up, but things are still a bit sticky with the ex situation. I believe there is no way Tom can get out of letting her stay at least overnight. Her home base is (at closest) Stoke-on-Trent. She wants to do a PhD at our uni-that being in Reading. For those without a clue of the logistics, thats about 2 and a half hours journey there and back just for an interview. I've predicted that if Tom says no outright she'll say that he owes her for cheating on her all those years ago, that their wonderful teenage unhappy romance is enough history to merit a favour like this, that she's coming to Reading whether he likes it or not and if that involves hanging around campus until she spots him, asking door to door where he lives or even drpping in at his work/lectures periodically until she finds him then so be it. We're talking about someone who was found sat outside in his front garden for hours waiting for him to come home-she ain't giving up that easily.
Even if Tom explains (or to put it lightly, LIES) and says that he simply can't make room, i just know she'll suggest that she'll spend the night on the sofa (what student house doesn't have one? ) or bunk with him (Over my dead body-she'd be sooner welcome in the shed with the Guinea pigs). As for explaining that one of his housemates is his girlfriend? according to Tom, she'll take that to mean i 'Stole him away' from her (Geez....like it takes a mastermind to do that, 8 other girls already have) that he isn't reeeeeeally in love with me, he's just getting confused again and that having her around will remind him who he REALLY wants (though to be honest? a clingy, controlling, possessive, psychopath who has a particular dislike of sex in general is really not his cup of tea).
You want to know what I've said? I've said Go ahead. Let the madwoman stay the night and she can see for herself that he doesn't need her anymore. I'll even be nice to her, even give her a chance and see for myself exactly what i'm up against.
J