The Bachelor
Dear Jason Mesnick,
I thought that you were it. You are kind, sweet, settled, and caring. It didn't hurt that you are pretty attractive too. I thought you were the first Bachelor that seemed to know exactly what he wanted and could actually be happy.
I was wrong.
It's not that you dumped the girl you proposed to and then asked out the other girl. I understand that people's feelings change. Although I have a feeling that you comparing the new faults you found in Melissa with the wonderful strength you remember about Molly probably didn't help. No, it's about the fact that you CHOSE to do it on national tv. Clearly, Melissa knew that things were going great but loved you enough to want to work on the relationship. Clearly, you had made up your mind to break up with her but was too polite and scared to do it on the phone. But to preempt everything with that little speech about how shitty you feel and how shitty you expected Melissa to feel (and act, according to your wise self), and then break up in front of Chris just means that Melissa WON'T be able to really say how she feels. She can't actually get as angry or as hurt as she feels because Chris AND THE WHOLE NATION (possibly the whole world) is or could be watching. I consider it well-played, but scummy.
I regret all that time and energy that I've spent watching the last Bachelorette and now this season of the Bachelor. However, thank you for giving many-a-girl another reality check on the emotional and mental immaturity that men can have.
Best wishes (to Molly, who's sure gonna need them).
I thought that you were it. You are kind, sweet, settled, and caring. It didn't hurt that you are pretty attractive too. I thought you were the first Bachelor that seemed to know exactly what he wanted and could actually be happy.
I was wrong.
It's not that you dumped the girl you proposed to and then asked out the other girl. I understand that people's feelings change. Although I have a feeling that you comparing the new faults you found in Melissa with the wonderful strength you remember about Molly probably didn't help. No, it's about the fact that you CHOSE to do it on national tv. Clearly, Melissa knew that things were going great but loved you enough to want to work on the relationship. Clearly, you had made up your mind to break up with her but was too polite and scared to do it on the phone. But to preempt everything with that little speech about how shitty you feel and how shitty you expected Melissa to feel (and act, according to your wise self), and then break up in front of Chris just means that Melissa WON'T be able to really say how she feels. She can't actually get as angry or as hurt as she feels because Chris AND THE WHOLE NATION (possibly the whole world) is or could be watching. I consider it well-played, but scummy.
I regret all that time and energy that I've spent watching the last Bachelorette and now this season of the Bachelor. However, thank you for giving many-a-girl another reality check on the emotional and mental immaturity that men can have.
Best wishes (to Molly, who's sure gonna need them).