Bitching
A few months ago, Ryan and I had a big fight/talk with his family about their inappropriate sexist and racist jokes. Dave pointed out that I curse a lot, which bothers him when it is around the kids. In an effort to listen and because I think he has a point, I have been trying to watch my language around the younger ones more. It hasn't been perfect, but it is getting better.
I had to spank Fiona twice today for using the word "bitch". It made me feel like a hypocrite, but even more it made me want to hit Dave. We spent the weekend with him and Tonya in the Keys, and he must have called Tonya a bitch at least four times every day. Today Fiona was playing with two toys. One toy says to the other toy, "You are a bitch." I told her not to say that word; it is especially mean to call other people that, and after she had used it a few more times I had to swat her butt. It's such a cliche, but I am sure it hurt me more than it hurt her.
This makes me angry on a lot of levels. It makes me mad that Dave is a hypocrite. I think the bigger issue is that it reminds me that the whole cursing thing was simply a way to make him feel better when I asked him not to be racist. It reminds me that when I was trying to address something important to me, he belittled it by trying to turn the tables. It also pisses me off because he was cursing at a specific person, and now, Fiona thinks it is ok to do that as well.
I had to spank Fiona twice today for using the word "bitch". It made me feel like a hypocrite, but even more it made me want to hit Dave. We spent the weekend with him and Tonya in the Keys, and he must have called Tonya a bitch at least four times every day. Today Fiona was playing with two toys. One toy says to the other toy, "You are a bitch." I told her not to say that word; it is especially mean to call other people that, and after she had used it a few more times I had to swat her butt. It's such a cliche, but I am sure it hurt me more than it hurt her.
This makes me angry on a lot of levels. It makes me mad that Dave is a hypocrite. I think the bigger issue is that it reminds me that the whole cursing thing was simply a way to make him feel better when I asked him not to be racist. It reminds me that when I was trying to address something important to me, he belittled it by trying to turn the tables. It also pisses me off because he was cursing at a specific person, and now, Fiona thinks it is ok to do that as well.