Soul searching
Been doing a lot of soul searching, my husband and I. After a lot of thought and mutual consideration we have deicded to separate. Our house will go up for sale sometime this week, being listed through a nice man & dear friend of ours. We decided to pursue these 2 courses of action because the financial "weight" (a.k.a. mortgage and bills) upon our relationship. The stress diminished our intimacy to the point of us feeling like stagnant roommates.
We are both lost and have openly admitted it to each other. Instead of evolving in positive lights from our initial courtship, we have stepped backwards and inwards. We both felt that allowing one another time to sort out personal issues in different living spaces was the appropriate thing to do. Notice, however, that we are not filing for divorce. The focus and energy needs to be redirected into healing wounds (some self-inflicted) via therapy, time & space, and meditation. This absolutely must happen if we are to be good and true to each other and our 2 beautiful children.
Simplify, heal, reconnect. Become financially responsible and accountable. Open IRA's, put money into deferred comp, add to the childrens' college savings/529's...Speak with a personal therapist and attend marriage counseling as a couple. And if after all is said and done, we agree that "we" cannot and should not work, part as friends but remain as a team of parents.
We are both lost and have openly admitted it to each other. Instead of evolving in positive lights from our initial courtship, we have stepped backwards and inwards. We both felt that allowing one another time to sort out personal issues in different living spaces was the appropriate thing to do. Notice, however, that we are not filing for divorce. The focus and energy needs to be redirected into healing wounds (some self-inflicted) via therapy, time & space, and meditation. This absolutely must happen if we are to be good and true to each other and our 2 beautiful children.
Simplify, heal, reconnect. Become financially responsible and accountable. Open IRA's, put money into deferred comp, add to the childrens' college savings/529's...Speak with a personal therapist and attend marriage counseling as a couple. And if after all is said and done, we agree that "we" cannot and should not work, part as friends but remain as a team of parents.