Comments | missniceness: Are Most People Completely Unreasonable?

missniceness

Are Most People Completely Unreasonable?

Mar 26, 2009 13:43

Well now; I'm getting to be an expert at writing things online and then receiving all sorts of insults regarding my character, intelligence, and values. Yeah, I know...it's just "online" -- but it does not help a person with their already damaged self-esteem issues!

self-esteem, unreasonable, cruelty, facebook

Comments 8

schoolofsoul March 26 2009, 17:59:49 UTC

People who insult you on Facebook aren't worth keeping as online friends.

missniceness March 26 2009, 18:05:18 UTC

I know, I know. I basically made a comment on someone's status and got completely misinterpreted. To prevent a flame war, I sent a private message trying to explain my intentions and she said she would respond when she can refrain from cussing me out. So I'm kinda waiting for her to do that.

But seriously, I was blindsided. So I am not sure what that says about me. I am a very sensitive person...so it's not being callous. I guess I just don't understand what makes people tick (or explode).

schoolofsoul March 26 2009, 21:10:48 UTC

WTF? How dare you say that to me! RAR!!

Nah, just kidding. ;D

You're right, sometimes you just never know what will set someone off.

I'll message you the link to my Facebook profile and you can friend me there...if you like.

malkaesther March 27 2009, 02:21:49 UTC

Ouch. There tends to be no way to understand what makes people tick or explode. Try not to beat yourself up to much over this.

niyabinghi March 26 2009, 19:32:18 UTC

Oh, man. If you apologized that quickly she should have taken you at your word your intentions -- give people the benefit of the doubt.

missniceness March 26 2009, 20:10:52 UTC

{Sigh} I agree. I do my best to not embarrass and humilate people. Judaism likens such to murder. I am sure I do not always succeed at this, but I really do not see why people are so quick to call other bad names. I guess those person's feelings are not worth as much as your need to shout a bit.

On my end of the equation I do not like staying quiet about what I truly feel. I grew up doing that and always felt like a fake. The crazy thing about it is that I feel that if the exact same words were coming from someone else, they would be heard very differently.

To be honest, I have a history of saying things and getting my opinion slapped down and completely stomped on. Very few people respect what I have to say (the exception to this is among religious Jews -- who actually find great interest what I have to say). I don't need the self-validation; but I also don't enjoy the complete disrespect I tend to encounter all the time.

niyabinghi March 26 2009, 21:38:33 UTC

Oh that is quite understandable. It feels pretty darn good to be able to express oneself especially if one came from a background of being belittled (me too.)

Heh -- I have a history of saying things and people replying "I don't understand a word you're saying!" ;)

malkaesther March 27 2009, 02:20:51 UTC

*snugs* It is hard when people put you down even online. I still spend 1-7 days upset whenever someone says something negative about my posts online.

I don't know where you are being made to feel bad but all the stuff I've read of yours over the last few weeks continues to have me feel that you would make a good moderator and you are very good with communicating and making sure that those that hold "different from charedi opinions" are ok which is really important in a number of the places you post.