Men are like Buses...
Seriously.
So the other week I went to an audition for the latest Barefoot Players Production, when halfway through, the nice guy I met the other night (the one I chatted to in the club while playing my PSP and Kingdom Hearts) turned up. He knew a surprising handful of the group, and apparently decided just to pop up and watch. It was a little embarrassing (I tend to get all awkward if I feel people are 'watching' me when I audition - which is stupid, considering that's what an audition is!) but I pretended he wasn't there for the most part until we had a break and I could pop over to say hello.
We had already had a go at a couple of scenes, and he said hello and how he enjoyed watching Ellie and I performing together, saying things like "I can see how you won a trip to Japan with it!" and stuff like that. He was very nice as before, and we had a little chat about video games, such as Zelda and Pokemon.
As always with our BFP auditions (and some rehearsals) the evening ends with a trip to the pub, so we all made our way to the pub and sat down over two tables and chatted. I admit, myself and the nice guy ended up getting really deep into conversation about Japan, what to do there, what I plan to do, video games (again), what we want to do with our lives, etc. Moving eventually onto the topic of movies. Of which we both expressed our joy for The Muppet Movie and all subsequent Muppet-related films thereafter, to the point of how we wanted to see The Muppets but had no one to go and see it with.
To which he replied he'd like to go and see it with me.
Now this is where I always get confused with guys, I never know if they mean it in a 'friend' way, or in a 'more than friend' way - mostly because generally I'm a pretty oblivious person when it comes to these sorts of things, so I always say yes anyway.
Now, pausing on this nice guy, we go to gentleman 2.
This guy is someone I've been hanging out with for a while, he's part of my Southampton Legend of the Five Rings (a Samurai-themed D&D game) group. We were also in the same group for about 8 months previously on our last tabletop game, Dark Heresy (based off the Warhammer 40k verse). He's a really nice guy, fun, friendly, we tend to share the same jokes and have invisible gun battles across the room when the GM has someone out of the room to discuss 'private roleplay'.
He teases me a lot, but not in a nasty way, and yeah he's an altogether nice fun guy to be around. He's always complimenting me for my cosplay work, always saying "I don't know what it is, but I think this one is cool and that one is too" and saying how he likes how I can make myself look like a guy, but also a really girly girl as well. Anyway, last session (Friday night just gone) he asked in a casual way 'which team I batted for'.
Since he phrased it in such a casual way I didn't think anything of it when I replied saying I was straight. At the end of the night I offered him a lift home, since i was dropping our GM off on the way anyway, I didn't mind giving him a lift so he didn't have to do a 40min walk at 3am in Southampton. On the drive over, we had a friendly chat as usual, and then when we got to his house he said that he'd like to talk more about the stuff I'm into, that he'd love to get involved with something like cosplay, since he thinks its really cool, and even is curious about attending Expo. He said maybe we should chat about it over drinks or go to the cinema if I wanted.
This is when I was not so oblivious and thought maybe he was suggesting a 'date' but hadn't officially called it a 'date'. But I admit, he's a nice guy and I like chatting to him, so I said drinks would be nice, and there's a load of good films coming out in November that I'd love to go and see anyway, and we would discuss it on Facebook.
Since then he's sent me the occasional little text saying how he liked the little chat we had, and that we should meet up for drinks sometime, and then said how he thought my cosplay stuff was cool and how he likes how I look 'serious' in some photos and 'stunning' in others.
I didn't have time to reply to the last text since I've been at work all day and he's only just now (literally as I'm typing this) written another apologising saying he hoped he didn't say anything wrong in his last text.
All in all, I really don't know what to do in either of these two cases! I'm so unused to male attention that on the off chance it does happen I end up being all 'durr' and not knowing what to do. Personally I feel it can't hurt to hang out with either at the moment, mostly because no one has officially called it a 'date' or actually gone and asked me out. But then again another part of me is still wondering if it counts as cheating or not, or stringing along two guys. Which is something I don't want to do because they're both lovely.
I'm just a bit stuck of what to do. :( Maybe I'm thinking too much into this. Guys make everything difficult!