Yeah, I'm done

[missdiane]

I kept seeing just nature pictures from the niece on IG so I asked where they were from. She mentioned New Hampshire so I asked what their route for their trip was. She sent me this

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[amethyst_witch]

Yeahhh...yeah, that's a dick move. My mom used to drive by my house (BY IT) almost daily to visit my brother and never ONCE thought to call me/pop in whatever. I know your pain, hon. But we can't change them, all we can do is protect ourselves. *hugs*

[missdiane]

*hugs* Sometimes the ones we want to be closest to us hurt us the most. When that happens, it's time to plot our own course and make our own "family."

The fact that they used to guilt trip me about visiting them when I've flown down more than once irritates me but they're now die-hard conservative christian MAGA dipshits and while I feel sorry for my nibblings, one of them decided to stop bothering with me after being a jackass when I gave him a birthday gift (no, I didn't call him out for being a jackass, I just stopped giving him gifts since he'd turned 18 anyway), the niece I'm on the fence about but she's being influenced by her absolute bitch of a mother so for now, until she becomes an adult and hopefully finds a way to escape their clutches, I'm laying low with her. The last time they came up was over 20 years ago and as usual, were here less than a day.

[amethyst_witch]

20 years... I know it's easier said than done, but, I'd give up on this if I were in your place. They're just not worth your time/energy/mental health.

As a true conservative I'm always horrified that Americans might think that that's the same thing as a republican, but it's not, I assure you! We still believe in abortion rights/gay marriage/immigration, it's just tighter on government spending and holding people accountable for their actions/tougher on crime etc.

I just wanted to get that out from now so if it ever comes up naturally that you already know that I do not/would not wear that red hat.
:)

[veganhothead]

I don’t blame you one bit for wanting to cut off your siblings. We don’t get to choose our family, but we do get to choose who we allow into our lives. They don’t deserve you.

[threecee]

I couldn't understand that odd kink in the route in PA until I remembered that the Orange Menace was speaking at the Farm Show Building in Harrisburg (it is equipped to handle herds of big dumb animals and huge amounts of manure) the other week.

I know it hurts to be cut by family like that, but honestly, it would have been a very uncomfortable visit if they had stopped, wouldn't it?

[missdiane]

😳 Good grief I hope they aren’t following HIM around. The nephew didn’t go and I doubt the niece though that she had any choice

Makes me wonder if the drive by in NJ was to go by his golf course.

I didn’t want to see them, but at the same time absolutely no effort made. If anything while it’s a little stinging, it’s a little freeing because it’s cement that I don’t want anything to do with them anymore. Ever. Hopefully I’ll get to see my niece one day and hopefully she doesn’t get sucked into their hate

[threecee]

Maybe keep some contact with the niece since she still seems decent and you could be the lifeline to keep her from drinking the Kool Aid.

[missdiane]

She still identifies on her IG as part of the LGBTQIA community and agnostic so I keep the lifeline open. But I'm going to be more measured in online conversations with her because I can't trust that her toxic parents - especially her crazy mother - aren't monitoring her conversations. Also, she's 17 so she should've known that what she said was hurtful. Before her trip she seemed to either delete and bring back or limit access on her IG and before that she was posting a lot of stuff with her mom. So I'm leery to be as candid with her as I was before. She'll be an adult soon and hopefully she'll start seeking some independence.