So Yeah...
All my life I've been told that feelings can't be wrong; you can't help the way you feel about something, so your feelings can't really be wrong. They can be different than someone else's feelings about the same thing, but not wrong. But I've suspected for a long time that that isn't true: feelings can be wrong. Just because you can't help the way you feel, that doesn't mean the you feel can't be the wrong way to feel about something. I know I'm not being very clear, so I'll try and give a more concrete example:
Say you got some bad news. If you felt sad or angry, those would be the right ways to feel. If you laughed, that would be wrong.
My emotions are often wrong. Not as dramatic as the example I gave, but still, the way I feel about things is often the wrong way to feel. To know that your feelings are wrong is hard to deal with, because it means that if the way my emotions work is screwed up. It means I'm so stupid, even my feelings don't work properly. I'm tired of being wrong all the time; I want my feelings to work right.
Half the time I don't even know my feelings are wrong. I have to be told that I'm taking something too seriously or that I need to get over things already. And up until then I thought my feelings were right. And then suddenly I'm like "I shouldn't be upset anymore? So why aren't I? What's wrong with me?"
Say you got some bad news. If you felt sad or angry, those would be the right ways to feel. If you laughed, that would be wrong.
My emotions are often wrong. Not as dramatic as the example I gave, but still, the way I feel about things is often the wrong way to feel. To know that your feelings are wrong is hard to deal with, because it means that if the way my emotions work is screwed up. It means I'm so stupid, even my feelings don't work properly. I'm tired of being wrong all the time; I want my feelings to work right.
Half the time I don't even know my feelings are wrong. I have to be told that I'm taking something too seriously or that I need to get over things already. And up until then I thought my feelings were right. And then suddenly I'm like "I shouldn't be upset anymore? So why aren't I? What's wrong with me?"