job job job

[miss_botanic]

i got a job! i was hired yesterday and started today. yay!! i'm actually taking over my mom's old position at her company. I'm doing medical records and supplies for a home health agency. so not what i'm used to... but i'm employed. and thats all that matters

Comments

[lyciumchld]

I think it all depends on why you feel insecure with the person he made a comment to. Did he know this in advance? And was it something he understood? Sometimes guys just blow things off because they don't understand them (or didn't actually know the difference because it never occurred to them and we didn't spell it out in black and white). Have the two of you been flirty before with others who were more neutral? If so, it may not have occurred to him that certain people were off limits with this same behaviour.

I think you might explain to him in this format "This is what upset me. This is why. This is what I'd like to see happen going forward.". It is tantamount to conflict resolution with a man that you understand beforehand that he may not entirely understand the "This is why" part and will likely wish to get to the "This is what I'd like to see going forward" part. They are fixers, not philosophers, and as long as you are willing to accept it if this is the case with John you'll be more able to appreciate his efforts to amend once he understands that what he did hurt your feelings, even if he doesn't quite get why. If he seems to think there is a double standard involved, you may have to work out a compromise on the issue. I think the most important thing is how he reacts when you tell him that your feelings were hurt in a calm, rational tone (and in a neutral zone, not the bedroom!). See how open he appears to having a brief discussion about it, and keep your statements focussed on how you feel, why, and what you'd like to happen now. Suppositions and accusations will only deafen him to your pain and effectively halt a resolution to the issue. Hopefully things will smooth out. *hugs*

[miyako_ling]

good advice^^ I agree stay away from "You" statements, comments with "YOU" can set a guy off.

I got a job too! Yay!!

most of all Huggs! Its good this happened this way you can test the waters to make sure that He is really the one for you.