I need your help for school

Sep 28, 2006 11:39


Front Stage versus Backstage

So in my sociology (marriage and families) class my teacher has made up this concept in relationships of a front stage and backstage and to never make a descision about marriage with this person until you have moved to the backstage area.  Here's how it goes:

When you sit in a theater waiting fo rhte show to start you look at the curtain and how it looks nice with the bright light shining on it and you cant see anything that's happening backstage at the moment.  Although if you were allowed backstage you might see there is a tear or two maybe even a stain on the curtain and it doesn't seem as glossy.

When a couple is beginning to date they try to keep up a front about themselves for the other person trying to impress them and whatnot.  Trying to nly show the good things about themselves.  But if the relationships lasts the couple will reveal things about themselves that maybe aren't so pristine and now you can see the good and the bad.

My teacher said to make sure that you know what your getting yourself into and deciding to get married to take the good and the bad with this person.

So here's where you guys come in:

I need some things you think are front stage and backstage behaviors.  Let me give you a few examples I have come up with:

Front stage-
I'm too embarassed to fart in front of you
I wont show you my anger
I still clean my room when I know you are coming over

Backstage-
I am willing to discuss my family's health with you (important if this is genetic stuff considering it might be passed down to children)
I don't feel the need to put on make up when I am going to see you
I know your financial situation (VERY IMPORTANT becuase your credit becomes their credit and their credit becomes yours)
I'm not afraid to cry in front of you

Thank you in advance!
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