catcallers
So today I was walking around the city and I had my headphones on and I sorta hear some type of shouting going on in the background so I turn around and see a bunch of belligerent men in a car so I just shrug it off and keep walking. But apparently they were trying to get my attention and then got really fucking angry that I didn't pay attention. I'm in my own world and turn the corner and their car does too, and there was some traffic, as I'm walking one of them turns directly at me and screams really loud "FUCK YOU! YOU'RE A FUCKING BITCH!" And I was like uh ... your face would look nice against a brick wall, but then I walked into Urban Outfitters and looked at ugly shit to forget about what he said.
I mean honestly the whole thing was so fucking bizarre. I guess they thought I was being stuck up for not acknowledging their bullshit but seriously FUCK THEM! Women face this kind of harassment every fucking day and entitled assholes like that need to stop thinking they deserve anything in return.
Its not the first time someone has tried to catcall me from a car, but this is the first time they ever got belligerent about it. I figured the guy probably had some mental problems or something because the level of anger was just not normal at all.
Seriously though why can't men keep their unwelcome verbal contact to themselves? You know I think there's some scientific evidence that states that men can't read body language as well as women, if a woman is not interested you can easily tell by her body language. I just don't get catcalling at all!! And I'm sorry but its always minority men who do it! I could say some things about the men in the car that shouted at me...
I've walked by some White construction workers but never had anything rude said to me, I mean you can feel the eyes on you but no "hey ma can I talk to you?" bullshit.
I think those kind of situations are really fucked up because it can seriously make you feel unsafe. To be honest I'm glad they were in a car, I can't imagine having to have close contact with someone who displayed that much anger. And being in crowds is the worst because psychologically people don't want to get involved because they think oh someone else is gonna help.
If something like that ever happens to any of you, don't get upset about it because you can start to think that somehow its your fault, but seriously fuck men who are verbally abusive! A woman shouldn't be made to feel unsafe or shitty because she didn't wanna be play nice and reply to unwanted verbal contact. To be honest I really, really hate having to continue on a conversation with some strange guy just because I'm trying to be polite when all I want to do is tell him to stfu.
The other weekend I was in the bookstore, just minding my own fucking business and some dude starts talking to me and asking me all this info that I consider kinda private, like what I do and if I live around there and blah blah. All I wanted to do was get back to reading my magazine, but instead of telling him I didn't want to continue the conversation I felt the need to physically remove myself from the situation to put an end to it. It really pissed me off to have to do that because I shouldn't HAVE to feel the need to do that just to get this dumb fuck to stop talking to me, but I was trying to be polite and a nice girl. UGHHHHH. I slowly getting over stuff like that and learning to speak up more, but a lot of that crap that women put up with is so internalized its hard to deprogram yourself.
And that goes back to the body language thing, is like men can't tell or don't care about telling the difference of when you're trying to end a conversation and you're NOT FUCKING INTERESTED in talking to them. I'm sorry but its pretty fucking easy to tell when a girl is interested in continuing a conversation with you at least from my pov but then again women are more attuned to that kind thing D:
I mean honestly the whole thing was so fucking bizarre. I guess they thought I was being stuck up for not acknowledging their bullshit but seriously FUCK THEM! Women face this kind of harassment every fucking day and entitled assholes like that need to stop thinking they deserve anything in return.
Its not the first time someone has tried to catcall me from a car, but this is the first time they ever got belligerent about it. I figured the guy probably had some mental problems or something because the level of anger was just not normal at all.
Seriously though why can't men keep their unwelcome verbal contact to themselves? You know I think there's some scientific evidence that states that men can't read body language as well as women, if a woman is not interested you can easily tell by her body language. I just don't get catcalling at all!! And I'm sorry but its always minority men who do it! I could say some things about the men in the car that shouted at me...
I've walked by some White construction workers but never had anything rude said to me, I mean you can feel the eyes on you but no "hey ma can I talk to you?" bullshit.
I think those kind of situations are really fucked up because it can seriously make you feel unsafe. To be honest I'm glad they were in a car, I can't imagine having to have close contact with someone who displayed that much anger. And being in crowds is the worst because psychologically people don't want to get involved because they think oh someone else is gonna help.
If something like that ever happens to any of you, don't get upset about it because you can start to think that somehow its your fault, but seriously fuck men who are verbally abusive! A woman shouldn't be made to feel unsafe or shitty because she didn't wanna be play nice and reply to unwanted verbal contact. To be honest I really, really hate having to continue on a conversation with some strange guy just because I'm trying to be polite when all I want to do is tell him to stfu.
The other weekend I was in the bookstore, just minding my own fucking business and some dude starts talking to me and asking me all this info that I consider kinda private, like what I do and if I live around there and blah blah. All I wanted to do was get back to reading my magazine, but instead of telling him I didn't want to continue the conversation I felt the need to physically remove myself from the situation to put an end to it. It really pissed me off to have to do that because I shouldn't HAVE to feel the need to do that just to get this dumb fuck to stop talking to me, but I was trying to be polite and a nice girl. UGHHHHH. I slowly getting over stuff like that and learning to speak up more, but a lot of that crap that women put up with is so internalized its hard to deprogram yourself.
And that goes back to the body language thing, is like men can't tell or don't care about telling the difference of when you're trying to end a conversation and you're NOT FUCKING INTERESTED in talking to them. I'm sorry but its pretty fucking easy to tell when a girl is interested in continuing a conversation with you at least from my pov but then again women are more attuned to that kind thing D: