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[miraculousdream]

I wish I could just do the rational thing. Keith loves me. My room mate just bailed on me, so we need a new room mate. Keith wants to move in. It would solve rent issues and make my life more stable. We've been dating for a long time. I'd be in a stable relationship, engaged by the end of summer, married by Fall. Married. Me. Hell, I'm at

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[lazy_blazey]

I attempted to post a really long, heartfelt response to this on your Myspace blog, but when I hit "post," the damn thing vanished. I hate when words of advice are erased due to computer glitches. >_That said, let me try repeating my sentiment

[lazy_blazey]

See? Some people say, "No, follow your heart! Find your true love!" and some say "No! Stick with what you have since it's good!"

... what do *I* say? I don't know. I'm sort of floating around between the two of those options.

[miraculousdream]

That anonymous was me, by the way.

[lazy_blazey]

You have to know asking everyone's advice on a public forum is bogus. You'll always get conflicting advice. Asking us is just delaying a decision, because you're hoping for an answer that will make everyone happy. You've been floating around for a while now. Pick an option and go with it. Be with Keith or don't be.

You're like family to me, so no matter what decision you make, I'll support you.

[viable_chimera]

You obviously weren't there all the nights before and during the trip she'd cry and mourn and flip out over Keith-related issues. Anybody creating that kind of dependency - and do what he's done in a relationship - can't be good. You see them playing video games together, so you think what they have is GOOD?

I like Keith as a person. But I stand by not liking him as a boyfriend for Heather.

[lazy_blazey]

You see them playing video games together, so you think what they have is GOOD?

With all due respect to what you've seen her go through in the past, you aren't here in this house right now, seeing what I see. Please don't belittle my input just because you've seen them together in a different time and place.

Heather cries and moans and flips out over a lot of things; boyfriends, her future, being alone in the dark, etc. The dependancy she has for Keith stems from something that no one but herself can fix- it's a character trait. Ask any of her previous boyfriends.

That's not to say Keith's innocent. When she first confided in me that she was thinking of going back to him, I tried my hardest to get her to reconsider. She'd told me what had happened between them in the past, and I did NOT want her to get hurt again. But it was her decision, as it is now, and I would've been a jackass to step in and try to halt what I thought was a mistake. Even after they started dating again, I wasn't too sure about Keith. To this day I'm not sure

[viable_chimera]

I wasn't trying to belittle your input. I'm sorry if you thought that.

I was just saying, regardless of how they act together NOW, those things still did happen in the past - and those are things that still reflect a possible future relationship.

All those things that you says she's doing: sleeping well, etc. are great - but I honestly believe she needs to be working on being able to do those things on her own, and not because of Keith - or ANYBODY - being around. Especially stuff like ME3 work. ;) That needs to be remembered to get done in the absence of Keith.

[lazy_blazey]

I agree that she should learn all of that on her own, but what saddens me is that she may not be willing or able to. I wish she could just suck it up and face all the fears she has-- she could be a force to be reckoned with-- but lots of things bog her down when they shouldn't.

Being with someone like Keith, who doesn't cater to her every whim, may help her understand self-reliance more than some yahoo who decides that she's worth waiting on hand and foot.

[viable_chimera]

Now that I'm with you on. Err.. except for the Keith part. :P