What has been your longest relationship?: 38 months and counting.
What do you expect from the relationship that will hopefully stick?: Our (Millie and I) relationship has nearly no communication boundaries. I say nearly because no relationship has perfect communication. We tell each other our feelings no matter what effect it may have. Love is not only about the positive but the negative as well. Just because something may hurt your partner doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be brought to attention. After all; the small things matter most. AND. When one tries to ignore the annoying aspects of a relationship, as opposed to simply communicating, eventually the small bad overcomes the larger good.
What does the term 'to be in love' mean to you? Being in Love has many different meanings. Love is such a broad term in the English language. It means many things. Take for instance friendship love, relationship love, and love for a family member to name just a few. The context of the statement containing the word love often emphasizes its meaning. Where as other languages such as Spanish have many different vocal forms of the word love, each term being specifically used to describe the form of love for another. To answer your question I think the term ‘to be in love’ covers the broad aspect of friendship, trust, communication, vulnerability, and the willingness to emotionally evolve and adapt to another’s way of life while maintaining a balance of your own identity in a relationship. In past experiences I have been in love and given up pieces of my own identity to adapt to another prerequisite view of who I should become. Needless to say that didn’t work out very well because I forgot how to love myself during the process. My only hope left was my false love for another because when I was with them I was miserable, no happiness at all. I lost my balance and have come to believe it may not be possible to truly ‘be in love’ with another without first loving ourselves. Hence my firm belief in willingness to emotionally evolve and adapt to another’s way of life while maintaining a balance of ones own identity in a relationship. To me the ability to communicate well enough in order to keep that balance between partners, friends, or family is ‘to be in love’.
What kind of love do you expect from your partner to be (not the initial love, but the love that will be after a few years?): As long as were still laughing at each others bad jokes, being adventurous in our own way, holding each other when times are bad, and communicating I know we will be happy. After all; three years have gone by and I can’t see myself being anyone else. Her nose still crinkles when see smiles the exact same way it did when I first met her. To me that means life is good.
What has been your longest relationship?: 38 months and counting.
What do you expect from the relationship that will hopefully stick?: Our (Millie and I) relationship has nearly no communication boundaries. I say nearly because no relationship has perfect communication. We tell each other our feelings no matter what effect it may have. Love is not only about the positive but the negative as well. Just because something may hurt your partner doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be brought to attention. After all; the small things matter most. AND. When one tries to ignore the annoying aspects of a relationship, as opposed to simply communicating, eventually the small bad overcomes the larger good.
What does the term 'to be in love' mean to you? Being in Love has many different meanings. Love is such a broad term in the English language. It means many things. Take for instance friendship love, relationship love, and love for a family member to name just a few. The context of the statement containing the word love often emphasizes its meaning. Where as other languages such as Spanish have many different vocal forms of the word love, each term being specifically used to describe the form of love for another. To answer your question I think the term ‘to be in love’ covers the broad aspect of friendship, trust, communication, vulnerability, and the willingness to emotionally evolve and adapt to another’s way of life while maintaining a balance of your own identity in a relationship. In past experiences I have been in love and given up pieces of my own identity to adapt to another prerequisite view of who I should become. Needless to say that didn’t work out very well because I forgot how to love myself during the process. My only hope left was my false love for another because when I was with them I was miserable, no happiness at all. I lost my balance and have come to believe it may not be possible to truly ‘be in love’ with another without first loving ourselves. Hence my firm belief in willingness to emotionally evolve and adapt to another’s way of life while maintaining a balance of ones own identity in a relationship. To me the ability to communicate well enough in order to keep that balance between partners, friends, or family is ‘to be in love’.
What kind of love do you expect from your partner to be (not the initial love, but the love that will be after a few years?): As long as were still laughing at each others bad jokes, being adventurous in our own way, holding each other when times are bad, and communicating I know we will be happy. After all; three years have gone by and I can’t see myself being anyone else. Her nose still crinkles when see smiles the exact same way it did when I first met her. To me that means life is good.
Hope this helps with your research.
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