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I wonder, why is it that when humans know that doing something would hurt them eventually, they still do it nonetheless? There are only two reasons I could formulate for such a behavior. One, we are slaves to our emotions. Two, we over-estimate ourselves, thinking that we are capable of completing the task yet protecting ourselves at the same time.
We always exclaim about our superiority as humans, our unparalleled intelligence and our capability to rationalize, but we are always falling prey to our emotions. Some attested that they could control their emotions, but is that really true? Haven't there been times when waves of emotions just crashed and drowned your rationality that you committed foolish acts out of rashness? We are all impulsive creatures, no matter how composed a person you think you are or other people have judged you to be. Our impulses just come in different forms and frequency. People tell me that love is foolish. Even if you know that being together with this man would make you suffer, you still get together with him because you love him. Even if he treats you badly, even if he coerces you into committing acts that you wish not to do, even if he hurts you, as long as you know he loves you or he says he loves you, you completely embrace all the pain that's been bestowed upon you by him. Then comes my question, what about self-respect? How can you possibly tolerate such ill behavior from the man who supposedly said he loves you? If he loves you, he would understand your reasons for not doing certain things; he would understand and respect your decisions; he would give you the respect you deserve as a human being and not see you as a woman who is inferior to a man; he would understand that his actions would directly affect you and so would be careful with his words and actions; he would be able to feel it when a part of you is hurt or upset even if you behave as though everything is fine; he would see the pain in your eyes even when you smile. People tell me that expecting such a behavior from men is simply too unfair and too much of an expectation. But, really? Do they really think that way or are they simply just afraid that the person they meet and fall in love with is incapable of doing that because it may be an indication that the person just doesn't love them that much? I don't think this is too much of an expectation, because when you really love the person, you find yourself always concerned about him/her, always never taking your eyes and attention off him/her and always observing the little details about him/her. If a man is incapable of doing this, then you should start doubting his ability to love you. If he only treats you like a toy to satisfy his lust, you should start considering the fact that maybe when he said he loves you, it was feelings that originated from lust. I know this doesn't sound pleasant, but it's true. Feelings that originated from lust can often be mistaken as love. This is not love, my friends. This is not. Treat yourself with more respect and don't fall prey to such men. Don't make yourself feel cheap when you're with him because you know you deserve more than that. Everyone deserves respect and should be treat like human beings.
Next, about over-estimating ourselves: this is one of human's arrogant behaviors. We often think that we are completely capable of doing things that others can't. We feel that we are different and so we think that even though others may be hurt in the course of doing that something, we will not be hurt. But really, how many times have we over-estimated ourselves and ended up hurting worse than we've anticipated? Certain girls like to think that they're special. Of course every girl is special, but they think that they are capable of turning a bad man into a good one, turning a casanova to a faithful man, and turning a sloth into a diligent man. What makes them think that they are capable of doing that? When they get into a relationship with a casanova, they think that they will be able to change him into someone faithful to them. Why? Because they feel that the man loves them equally as much as they love him. Casanovas are not called Casanovas for nothing. Of course they are capable of making you feel as though they love you deeply. And based on this so-called feeling, you arrogantly assumed that they would change for you, foolishly investing your feelings into a relationship that you already know wouldn't have the ending you wish for. If that man really wanted to change for you, he would do it even before both of you got together to prove that he is now someone you can safely get together with. It's because of your arrogance that you plunged into the relationship without having him do something in return to show you that he's worth you loving.
I know this post isn't pleasant to the eyes nor the brain, or any senses as a matter of fact. I am currently feeling rather negative and upset cause of some things that happened recently, so I admit, this post is kind of harsh. Other than the tone, my points are pretty much there.
We always exclaim about our superiority as humans, our unparalleled intelligence and our capability to rationalize, but we are always falling prey to our emotions. Some attested that they could control their emotions, but is that really true? Haven't there been times when waves of emotions just crashed and drowned your rationality that you committed foolish acts out of rashness? We are all impulsive creatures, no matter how composed a person you think you are or other people have judged you to be. Our impulses just come in different forms and frequency. People tell me that love is foolish. Even if you know that being together with this man would make you suffer, you still get together with him because you love him. Even if he treats you badly, even if he coerces you into committing acts that you wish not to do, even if he hurts you, as long as you know he loves you or he says he loves you, you completely embrace all the pain that's been bestowed upon you by him. Then comes my question, what about self-respect? How can you possibly tolerate such ill behavior from the man who supposedly said he loves you? If he loves you, he would understand your reasons for not doing certain things; he would understand and respect your decisions; he would give you the respect you deserve as a human being and not see you as a woman who is inferior to a man; he would understand that his actions would directly affect you and so would be careful with his words and actions; he would be able to feel it when a part of you is hurt or upset even if you behave as though everything is fine; he would see the pain in your eyes even when you smile. People tell me that expecting such a behavior from men is simply too unfair and too much of an expectation. But, really? Do they really think that way or are they simply just afraid that the person they meet and fall in love with is incapable of doing that because it may be an indication that the person just doesn't love them that much? I don't think this is too much of an expectation, because when you really love the person, you find yourself always concerned about him/her, always never taking your eyes and attention off him/her and always observing the little details about him/her. If a man is incapable of doing this, then you should start doubting his ability to love you. If he only treats you like a toy to satisfy his lust, you should start considering the fact that maybe when he said he loves you, it was feelings that originated from lust. I know this doesn't sound pleasant, but it's true. Feelings that originated from lust can often be mistaken as love. This is not love, my friends. This is not. Treat yourself with more respect and don't fall prey to such men. Don't make yourself feel cheap when you're with him because you know you deserve more than that. Everyone deserves respect and should be treat like human beings.
Next, about over-estimating ourselves: this is one of human's arrogant behaviors. We often think that we are completely capable of doing things that others can't. We feel that we are different and so we think that even though others may be hurt in the course of doing that something, we will not be hurt. But really, how many times have we over-estimated ourselves and ended up hurting worse than we've anticipated? Certain girls like to think that they're special. Of course every girl is special, but they think that they are capable of turning a bad man into a good one, turning a casanova to a faithful man, and turning a sloth into a diligent man. What makes them think that they are capable of doing that? When they get into a relationship with a casanova, they think that they will be able to change him into someone faithful to them. Why? Because they feel that the man loves them equally as much as they love him. Casanovas are not called Casanovas for nothing. Of course they are capable of making you feel as though they love you deeply. And based on this so-called feeling, you arrogantly assumed that they would change for you, foolishly investing your feelings into a relationship that you already know wouldn't have the ending you wish for. If that man really wanted to change for you, he would do it even before both of you got together to prove that he is now someone you can safely get together with. It's because of your arrogance that you plunged into the relationship without having him do something in return to show you that he's worth you loving.
I know this post isn't pleasant to the eyes nor the brain, or any senses as a matter of fact. I am currently feeling rather negative and upset cause of some things that happened recently, so I admit, this post is kind of harsh. Other than the tone, my points are pretty much there.