Being the bigger person
My friend told me a few days ago that he didn't understand why I would make compromises for people who are not cooperative enough and he said that he would never do that for anybody. He didn't see the necessity for compromises, and that if those people do not cooperate, he will either lash out at them or completely ignore them and let the entire project/discussion/whatever it is involved here die. The first thing I thought was, "We cannot be so selfish." It isn't always about us; it isn't always about making life easier for us. We need to look at the big picture here. Lashing out or completely ignoring is not going to solve the problem, and you will be pulling back other people who are involved as well. If my compromise would lead to a greater good, at least in my opinion, and from how much I can predict what implications this action entails, then why not compromise? Just because you are compromising doesn't mean that you are weakening your stance and making it seem like the other people are having the upper hand. On the other hand, you are just being the bigger person and seeing the big picture, rather than squabbling out with these immature creatures and end up having to clean up whatever extra mess they have created for you just for revenge. And when you compromise, reasonably, people acknowledge these compromises, and sometimes they reciprocate in little ways, though not very significant, but at least it means something, and ultimately you get the job done and you protect your relationship with them. So really, why not?
Besides, sometimes we make compromises because we cherish the relationship that we have with these people. Sure, there are annoying moments when you just feel like pulling their hair out and screaming at them, but I believe that there are times when you have been an annoyance to them and yet they took a step back and tolerated. I think a relationship goes both ways; compromises have to be made on both sides. I am not the silly kind who will compromise unconditionally; I have a limit too. But I always try to be rational in my decisions and in the stances I adopt for each relationship. I have always believed in the work of fate, so I treasure every single relationship I have with the people in my life. Though having said that, there are times when I feel like this relationship isn't working because I cannot take this particular person's shit anymore and I do not feel like, and do not want to compromise any further because further compromises will simply make me the desperate party in the relationship; like I cannot live without this relationship (which is not true). After yakking so much, I just want to say that sometimes we take a step back for the greater good, and I also feel that learning to compromise actually teaches us to be tolerant, mature, and understanding; traits that I think will bring us far in life and transform us into even better beings.
Besides, sometimes we make compromises because we cherish the relationship that we have with these people. Sure, there are annoying moments when you just feel like pulling their hair out and screaming at them, but I believe that there are times when you have been an annoyance to them and yet they took a step back and tolerated. I think a relationship goes both ways; compromises have to be made on both sides. I am not the silly kind who will compromise unconditionally; I have a limit too. But I always try to be rational in my decisions and in the stances I adopt for each relationship. I have always believed in the work of fate, so I treasure every single relationship I have with the people in my life. Though having said that, there are times when I feel like this relationship isn't working because I cannot take this particular person's shit anymore and I do not feel like, and do not want to compromise any further because further compromises will simply make me the desperate party in the relationship; like I cannot live without this relationship (which is not true). After yakking so much, I just want to say that sometimes we take a step back for the greater good, and I also feel that learning to compromise actually teaches us to be tolerant, mature, and understanding; traits that I think will bring us far in life and transform us into even better beings.