Love
I was watching "The Bachelor" on Star World last night and it struck me how terrible a platform it was for people to find love. I was exceptionally disappointed and disgusted with the bachelor who was struggling to decide which of the two girls he was going to propose to. He said he loves both of them. LOVE. I literally let out a snort. He is being so disrespectful to the two girls who have fallen head over heels for him, and who can see themselves married with him and having a family. How can he see the girls as options? Like, okay, so now I am going to weigh the pros and cons of the two girls and see which one is better and I am going to marry that one. This isn't how love is supposed to be like. You shouldn't have to choose between two people. You should treat the person as your one and only, and not one of your options. She deserves better than that. Everybody deserves better than that. Nobody should be another person's other choice. This isn't how love should be like. If you are conflicted between two people, then you should really reconsider your feelings for them because when you want to marry somebody, it should be this strong impulse and love that pushes the notion of marriage into your mind and you feel so strongly that you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. You should be sufficiently prepared and matured enough to want to undertake this huge responsibility of including someone into your life permanently. Besides, how can you even decide to marry somebody when you've only known them for a little while, go on a few dates and have some intimate moments in a span of one to two months? You have hardly known her! Knowing somebody takes a lot of time and effort and it is not just knowing about her tastes and preferences, it's about knowing her past, embracing her flaws, accentuating her strengths, and understanding her needs. I never believed in getting into a relationship when two people have only known each other for a few months.
This then brings me to the marriage of my good friend three days ago. I was stumped at the sudden news of his marriage, and what's worse was I had to find out on Facebook. I thought he would at least have the decency to tell us(our clique) about it himself, but apparently he didn't. Truthfully speaking, I was very disappointed. To him, it wasn't important how the marriage was held and the friends that were there. He didn't want to make it an elaborate affair, which I understand, but I just thought that we could be included in this. I want to be included in it because marriage is an important step in his life, and I want him to know that I sincerely wish him happiness. Though I thought it wasn't a rational decision to get married at the age of 21 because he hasn't even entered University yet, I respect his decision. But I still have a lot of reservations about this marriage. I know I tend to ruminate excessively about the future and everything, but I just thought that at the age of 21, how are we to be ready for such a huge commitment? I know I am not. I have so many things I want to do, so many dreams to pursue that I think I will most probably be single for the next ten years of my life.
I realize that being single gives you many realizations about a relationship that you will probably be unable to get when you're attached.
This then brings me to the marriage of my good friend three days ago. I was stumped at the sudden news of his marriage, and what's worse was I had to find out on Facebook. I thought he would at least have the decency to tell us(our clique) about it himself, but apparently he didn't. Truthfully speaking, I was very disappointed. To him, it wasn't important how the marriage was held and the friends that were there. He didn't want to make it an elaborate affair, which I understand, but I just thought that we could be included in this. I want to be included in it because marriage is an important step in his life, and I want him to know that I sincerely wish him happiness. Though I thought it wasn't a rational decision to get married at the age of 21 because he hasn't even entered University yet, I respect his decision. But I still have a lot of reservations about this marriage. I know I tend to ruminate excessively about the future and everything, but I just thought that at the age of 21, how are we to be ready for such a huge commitment? I know I am not. I have so many things I want to do, so many dreams to pursue that I think I will most probably be single for the next ten years of my life.
I realize that being single gives you many realizations about a relationship that you will probably be unable to get when you're attached.