give and take
The motives of friendship are not, cannot be, easy to be define. That is assuming that motives are constant across all individual minds, which is a lovely lie. The only underlying agenda (yes, it sounds so dry and painful, but it's probably quite true so deal with it already) that could possibly be constant when it comes to friendship is that we all want something. Whether it's wanting desirious company, wanting to be taken care of or even to have someone to give care to, you want something. Possibly your 'friend' is the means to an end, but I guess that'd be pushing it. Of course you fancy it to be both giving and taking. What you say you think you'd do is usually far from what you really do when it all boils down to spontaneity. Time tells, time whispers nasty truths sneakily over your shoulder to the next person and zips away before you can tape its mouth shut. The lack of time, the excess of unwanted time, the inexplicability of time passing fast, or slow. Time stops. Your heart floats to your throat as the moment drawls by sweetly slow, begins again, too fast, and then gone. Suddenly you know things which you are unable to explain, but you swear that you just...know.
So it maybe it can't be both giving and taking. Maybe it's All Giving. Two good friends means two people who have no problem giving a hundred percent to each other, so there's no issue of taking. It's all giving. That sounds good.
But more than 50% of the friendships we make just lie shipwrecked somewhere, forgotten. That's sad.
got this off a friend's archive (:
So it maybe it can't be both giving and taking. Maybe it's All Giving. Two good friends means two people who have no problem giving a hundred percent to each other, so there's no issue of taking. It's all giving. That sounds good.
But more than 50% of the friendships we make just lie shipwrecked somewhere, forgotten. That's sad.
got this off a friend's archive (: