"You'll find somebody"
Soon after I moved into my new place, my roommate (and owner) told me she (perpetually single) was complaining to someone about her single fate, and the girl told her--oh, don't worry. You'll find somebody. It's no big deal--in no time you'll find someone and fall in love and it will be easy and you'll marry them in no time. The girl made it sound so easy--right around the corner. But she and I, both single in our early 30s, wanted to hope she was right but were well aware that it's much more complicated than that.
Now, she and I are both dating somebody (whoa! Not like that--different somebodies! One somebody a piece, people!). Possibility is there--it lies right around the corner. We could both be blissfully wed within a year. And yet--I still don't agree with what that person said.
Oh--she's right in general. One could just go and be in love with falling in love and find the first person who smiles back. But overall, I don't believe love is that easy.
In fact, as I was pondering on it today, I felt insistently that finding someone without God's help that is the right someone, a good choice, someone whose worth my time, attention, and marriage--doesn't just happen. No--finding the right someone is one of the tender mercies of the Lord.
Without the Lord one can find SOMEONE. But that special one--someone whose really compatible--that takes divine intervention, or planning, or etc... I mean, I can name millions of people I've met that JUST AREN'T RIGHT. Guys upon guys that are fun, but not right for me. Then of the ones that there's possibility in--there's a whole litany of reasons they aren't right. And what we want--truly a good match--comes from the Lord.
And interestingly enough, I think my roommate and I are testaments of that. Her story is more dramatic--but it is definitely hers and not mine to tell. I think the summary of it is simply this---the Lord got a message through to her that "thy will be done" applies to marriage too--and she accepted it. Soon after, she goes on a date with this devilishly handsome man who is also sweet kind funny and awesome.
As for me--well--I have been praying since around 19 to find the right person to marry in the right place. And prayers have definitely been more fervant and more consistant since February. And while I don't know the outcome of the story of Minabird and the man she's currently dating, I do know that the Lord is the reason the two were brought together. And that it's not because I did something right---but it's because He planned it.
No--it's not so easy to just turn around and "find somebody." To find the right body, it is definitely a gift from God.
Now, she and I are both dating somebody (whoa! Not like that--different somebodies! One somebody a piece, people!). Possibility is there--it lies right around the corner. We could both be blissfully wed within a year. And yet--I still don't agree with what that person said.
Oh--she's right in general. One could just go and be in love with falling in love and find the first person who smiles back. But overall, I don't believe love is that easy.
In fact, as I was pondering on it today, I felt insistently that finding someone without God's help that is the right someone, a good choice, someone whose worth my time, attention, and marriage--doesn't just happen. No--finding the right someone is one of the tender mercies of the Lord.
Without the Lord one can find SOMEONE. But that special one--someone whose really compatible--that takes divine intervention, or planning, or etc... I mean, I can name millions of people I've met that JUST AREN'T RIGHT. Guys upon guys that are fun, but not right for me. Then of the ones that there's possibility in--there's a whole litany of reasons they aren't right. And what we want--truly a good match--comes from the Lord.
And interestingly enough, I think my roommate and I are testaments of that. Her story is more dramatic--but it is definitely hers and not mine to tell. I think the summary of it is simply this---the Lord got a message through to her that "thy will be done" applies to marriage too--and she accepted it. Soon after, she goes on a date with this devilishly handsome man who is also sweet kind funny and awesome.
As for me--well--I have been praying since around 19 to find the right person to marry in the right place. And prayers have definitely been more fervant and more consistant since February. And while I don't know the outcome of the story of Minabird and the man she's currently dating, I do know that the Lord is the reason the two were brought together. And that it's not because I did something right---but it's because He planned it.
No--it's not so easy to just turn around and "find somebody." To find the right body, it is definitely a gift from God.