What has happened?
I have such mixed feelings at the moment. I am upset about what has happened in the past 5 hours. But I can't tell which part of my thoughts are jealousy and which part are complete disagreement. Yes, I will admit I am jealous that she's engaged. I'd love to have found someone that I'd want to spend the rest of my life with. What girl wouldn't? However, I cannot get over the feeling I've got, that we all have, that he is wrong for her. I don't want her to push away who she is just so he won't leave her. I don't want her deceive herself.
She is such a wonderful person. She was a great friend and I miss being able to talk to her and laugh with her. I don't think she can be the same person with him. There is only room for his ideas and beliefs. They get in an argument and she just rolls over; how can you have a healthy relationship with this going on?
The hardest part of the situation is that I don't think we can get through to her. I want to believe that she is really happy, but my gut tells me she is convincing herself that she's happy. She doesn't believe she can find anyone else to "love" her so he has to be the one. If she's been able to convince herself he's the best why would she listen to us? I have yet to find a friend of hers that agrees with their relationship. What does that say?
Maybe we just aren't seeing who they are when they're together.I remember when I first met Tom and Amber. He was always such an asshole and I couldn't believe that someone so smart and amazing could be with him. We all felt like that. After spending some time together and seeing them interact at a different level I realized they're practically a perfect match. Sure he has a horrible first impression and he can be a little brash, but he adores her. He needs her to take care of him and she needs him to take care of, it just works. Do you think this could be a similar case? I just don't see it being so.
She is such a wonderful person. She was a great friend and I miss being able to talk to her and laugh with her. I don't think she can be the same person with him. There is only room for his ideas and beliefs. They get in an argument and she just rolls over; how can you have a healthy relationship with this going on?
The hardest part of the situation is that I don't think we can get through to her. I want to believe that she is really happy, but my gut tells me she is convincing herself that she's happy. She doesn't believe she can find anyone else to "love" her so he has to be the one. If she's been able to convince herself he's the best why would she listen to us? I have yet to find a friend of hers that agrees with their relationship. What does that say?
Maybe we just aren't seeing who they are when they're together.I remember when I first met Tom and Amber. He was always such an asshole and I couldn't believe that someone so smart and amazing could be with him. We all felt like that. After spending some time together and seeing them interact at a different level I realized they're practically a perfect match. Sure he has a horrible first impression and he can be a little brash, but he adores her. He needs her to take care of him and she needs him to take care of, it just works. Do you think this could be a similar case? I just don't see it being so.