Venting, and a few serious questions

[akasuzu]

I'm not sure why I'm still a part of this community. I mean, my boyfriend, now ex, is joining the army. He got his MOS... it is MOS, right?... and then decided to dump me. There's a bunch of drama leading up to this, of course. Of course!

Sorry for the confusion in advance; good luck following this.

Comments

[riseabove]

I would say that him repeatedly breaking up with you is a version of male "too emotional"-ness. As does the feeling of the certainty that he'd get a "Dear John" letter while in Basic. It sounds like, from what you've described here, that he is still feeling the effects of the burn he felt with his ex, and adding the impending frustrations about being away from you with very little contact while going through probably the toughest (mentally as well as physically) time in his life so far (BCT) is creating this kind of reaction in him. But that's just my opinion that you can take or leave if you want

[akasuzu]

It's okay. You didn't come off like a jackass. And it is a selfish thing to think, but it doesn't make me think it any less.

My only concern is I'm confused as to where I should go from here. I've told him over and over I'd be there for him, no matter what, but if I decide to move on with my life that means I know I could not even talk to him, because every time I'd be dying for him to ask for me back. And if I do decide to do that then I shouldn't be a part of this community, either, because it'll just remind me.

But on the other hand, I don't want to give up on him yet. I know he's going to go through some of the most difficult things in his life soon, and I want to be there for him. For better or worse, he'll be different when he gets back....and I want to be there for him..

[riseabove]

Well.. I like to think there is a fine line between being there for someone and being a doormat/allowing yourself to become a fool/walked all over. Where you draw that line, or when you see that line is all up to you.

[photo_mama]

Even though I've already been accused of being a bitch tonight, I'll have to take my chances and agree with her.

Especially about the military making people grow up and about Iraq making people see what's really important and who they really love. Those things DO happen, but you can't control whether it happens to him or not.

[riseabove]

oh! thanks for the kudos :)