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[sawyerlove]

Well looks like my life as a military wife ended before it even began. As soon as he's actually home/in my arms, I'll be leaving the group. He's being discharged as soon as they get his medical records due to MAJOR health problems. I'm not going to go into the details but he should be home shortly after the first of the year. Thank you all for your

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[ak_mommy81]

Thats a bummer, tho at least he'll be home w/ you.
I would love to stay in contact w/ you anyhow, and added u to my friends list if thats ok.

[sawyerlove]

That's absolutely fine. :) I've enjoyed chatting with you. My LJ isn't exactly active (I'm more on for communities lately) but I'm trying to start that up. Right now all my writing goes toward letters though!

[ak_mommy81]

Cool.I've enjoyed chatting with you also.My LJ isn't that active either.I go thru times when I'm really active and others where I won't post for weeks, maybe even months.lol

[sawyerlove]

My last real post was probably two years ago. :looks down, ashamed to be such a bad LJer: Oh, and that shirt you posted with the butterflies? I came across it looking for air force stuff a few days ago. It's really cute. :)

[ak_mommy81]

Wow..yeah, I more just hop on and read my friends page.Maybe even go to thier journals to catch up on past weeks if I'm not on enough to catch updates on the friends page.lol
Thanks.I can't wait for it to come in the mail.I wanna find something for my daughter next, tho I might have to come up w/ a saying seeing as Chris isn't her dad & she isn't adopted yet.

[sawyerlove]

I'm guessing unless you consider him her dad you will have to create your own. But I've seen plenty of cute ones. Or you could go for the Army/Navy/CG/AF/Marines Brat type. Not something I would have chosen for my kids but they can be pretty cute too.

[ak_mommy81]

Yeah, I've seen ones about 'I know someone in ___' and go on to say whatever about supporting them and what not.They have actually yet to meet but he has always been more concerned/interested in her well being then her own father and can't wait to take on the dad role.He's even mentioned how he would like to adopt her if that would be ok w/ her/I later on down the road after we get married.
Once we've moved it's a sure thing for the most part that we'll never see/hear from her dad.he can't even keep in contact and be a dad living on the other side of town, much less when we move to another state.So he'll pretty much be the father figure & I'm sure they'll get that father/daughter bond..at that time we'll get her a 'my daddys a soldier' shirt of some sorts.

[sawyerlove]

Makes sense to me. I'm sure when they do get that bond, she'll want a shirt that says something like "My daddy's a soldier" or "A soldier's princess". Even though our kids are several years away, I was looking at those types of shirts before this and found a ton of cute ones. You'll have no problem. And sometimes it's better when biological fathers fade out of their children's lives. It's sad but it's true. :/

[ak_mommy81]

Yeah, I'm sure she'll want something along those lines too.They have so many cute ones out there.It is sad, but in the case of her father its for the best.She's only 3.5 and has probably felt just as much heartache as a teenage girl getting thier heart broken by a boyfriend.Just sad that it's her father doing it to her.

[sawyerlove]

Poor girl. :( At least there's a man in her life who cares about her and will take on the daddy role. I think a little girl always needs someone like that whether it's daddy or grandpa or Uncle Steve or whoever.

[ak_mommy81]

Yeah.We've all tried to explain to him what he's doing to her but he just doesn't seem to care.Oh well, Chris is def the best thing for the both of us :)

[sawyerlove]

:) I'm glad you found someone that is so great for you both after what sounds like a total crap experience. I got so lucky. Ron's my first kiss, first boyfriend, first well everything. I've seen my mom go through at least three different men (she just left the third. again.) and I'm so glad to never have to deal with that drama or heartache.

[ak_mommy81]

Thank you :) I feel pretty lucky and still feel I need to pinch myself to be sure it's true.lol
I've seen my mom go thru boyfriend/husband hell too.I'd say compared what she's gone thru I've been lucky.I've only dated one other guy since ending it w/ my daughters father.That was enough.Had I not known Chris for as long as we have I probably wouldn't even think twice of giving him a chance.

[sawyerlove]

Well I'm glad that you're not following in your mom's footsteps. I hate seeing mine do this but she's done it before and she'll probably do it again. I just hope she doesn't pull this crap a week before my wedding. His kids adore her and me and I don't want to have her cut their hopes of coming to my wedding because she's being stupid.

I knew Ron for a good four years before we become a couple and it'll be at least six before we get married. I don't know about you but he's my best friend. I love that he's so great to me and we've known each other for so long. Well here's to breaking the patterns our parents set. :clinks glasses:

[ak_mommy81]

I think there is potential of him becoming my best friend.Despite being apart by many states my male bff and I are still pretty close and talk about anything/everything.

I'll toast to that! And then I hope my daughter breaks the pattern of some of the things I did.

[sawyerlove]

:) I think every couple should at least be very good friends (though each should definitely have friends outside of the relationship too!) if not best friends.

There's always things we wish we'd done better, and hope our kids don't repeat. Even though Ron was my first kiss, he wasn't first to do a couple little things (like kissing my neck or holding my hand). Looking back now, I wish I hadn't done those things, minor though they may be. I hope my kids (whenever they happen) will stick to their guns about things like that a bit more than I did and I have a lot less to potentially regret than a lot of others I know.