Comments | miki: the cheaters and the cheated

miki

the cheaters and the cheated

Feb 02, 2006 12:18

why do people cheat ( Read more... )

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izzybella February 2 2006, 20:46:40 UTC

a lot of people don't know what they want, so they go with whatever they can get. i don't think i'd ever cheat... i'm a one-man kinda gal :) if i wanted to play the field, i'd get it out of my system while i'm single.

edje88 February 2 2006, 20:58:26 UTC

that's what i think. i think people are too afraid of being alone so they end of being with someone who's ok but not what they may really want...and then when someone better comes along, they stray.

izzybella February 2 2006, 21:08:29 UTC

yeah, or in the wise words of my coworker: "their boat capsized so they grabbed on to whatever piece of trash that was floating by".

edje88 February 3 2006, 04:49:42 UTC

you can say that again.

bellyexposed February 2 2006, 21:47:16 UTC

probably the quest for someone EVEN better... and that's selfish.

kttle February 2 2006, 21:50:19 UTC

I asked this guy once before
and he says its really simple
they do it because they can
they have the opportunity and they want to do it
its JUST thats simple.

for the rest of us, we like to rationalize why someone would want to hurt someone they suppose to love and have been with.

lilunghwa February 3 2006, 06:01:12 UTC

that's it. that's the reason.

i don't think most guys seek opportunities to cheat, but if men are immature, then when a chance presents itself...

i don't know about women, maybe it's the same.

apple pie is yummy! nha_hang_chay February 2 2006, 21:53:19 UTC

hey sister. long time no see or talk.

you know i have been interested in this subject for a while now.

i think you framed it well above: the "supposedly" good & decent folks in committed whatevers can behave bad & undecent. you know if folks could just be REAL with each other - open honest communication - then i think things might be a bit different in the human relations arena. but people, unfortunately, don't KNOW how to do this for various reasons.

with a divorce rate at 60% in the u.s. i think it's healthy to really probe the question of relationships like: is it natural to be monogamous? or polyamorous? or asexual? (jk about the asexual bit, but i guess it's true for some folks!)

foxyfoe February 2 2006, 23:30:31 UTC

combination of elements: the opportunity, the likelihood of getting caught, low morals/weak character, selfishness... want me to go on?