I are confused.

[michellesolomon]

I still don't understand why, if you break off a friendship with someone, if you try to explain what you're frustrated, if you tell the person that really the friendship has just died but there are other reasons why you're upset...well, I don't grok the following:

• Told that "as a teacher" I would understand wonky behavior of another teacher who doesn't want to lose a job because of living arrangements. (Then don't tell them.)
• Why it's being passive-aggressive because I removed said person from all my social networking sites, even though the friendship was broken off. Why do I want to follow someone I'm not really interested in anymore? It's like maintaining contact with a boyfriend after a bad breakup. It's not passive aggressive; it's moving on, already.

I...I don't understand, sometimes. I like people who are straight-forward, who tell if something's wrong, if I've done something to hurt them so I can fix it, who will keep in touch even if you're really busy and won't presume that I "can't handle it" because I might be busy, who are, you know...adults.

I'm still hurt by the behavior of folks, 9 months after the wedding.