To swtich or not to switch OB's.....
I've been struggling with whether or not to switch OB's because the one that I love and adore is of the "once a c-section always a c-section" mindset. I feel just awful because I really do love my OB. He is so thorough and takes the time to explain anything and everything, is very compassionate (held my hand during the spinal for the c-section when I was PETRIFIED and did my D&C last April) and I just love him. He's been doing all of my monitoring this time around for these past 2 cycles, sending me for any and all bloodwork that the clinic in NY wanted, and has just been terrific about this whole thing.
When I had the u/s last Thursday and saw the heart beat, he congratulated me, gave me a big hug and told me to congratulate and say hello to the parents for him. Just a genuinely NICE guy. But then....as he was making notes in my file.....he said the dreaded words......"you know you're going to be a repeat c-section, right? I know we had a 'healthy' discussion (read: arguement) about it before (before we found out the pregnancy last year was a blighted ovum) but that is just the way this has to be", and I just kinda mumbled a "yah" under my breath. I thought I was going to cry right then and there.
I feel HORRIBLE leaving him after all he and his office staff have done for me....like I'm betraying them or something, but DH and I had a long talk about it over the weekend and I decided that I need to switch. I just can not give him the o.k. to cut me open when I know I'm a GREAT candidate for a VBAC (after having consulted with another OB/GYN last year), simply because I've had a previous c-section. I just can't do it.
Monday morning I called the new OB and made appointments. I'm still going to keep the u/s appt. that the soon to be old OB had me schedule (on the 30th), and it is at that visit that I will tell them that I'm going elsewhere. I don't know how I'm going to do it, but I will do it and request my records be sent to the new doctor. The only good thing about it is that the doctor himself is not in on the day that I am scheduled for that u/s. I(BROCK! BROCK! <--- my best chicken impression!) I'm scheduled for the u/s and then to see the nurse midwife (whom I also adore). I think it will be a lot easier for me to talk to her about the whole thing than it would be if I were to talk to the doctor himself. Hopefully they will all understand and not be upset with me for it.
I emailed my IP's about it today after once again asking if they are going to make this appointment on the 30th or not. I really think they were hoping that I'd just go along with the c-section as they also love the OB, so I think they may be a little upset about it. Hopefully they will like the new OB (and they have spoken to him over the phone already....last year when this all came up, and seemed to be happy with him) and we will have a great journey no matter who takes care of us throughout the pregnancy.
So there it is and hopefully I'm on my way to a wonderful VBAC experience. First appointment with the new office is scheduled for April 5th. I'll just see their nurse midwife that day to go over everything, and then the first appointment with the actual doctor is scheduled for April 26th, with the nuchal translucency scan somewhere in between there. Busy April for sure!
When I had the u/s last Thursday and saw the heart beat, he congratulated me, gave me a big hug and told me to congratulate and say hello to the parents for him. Just a genuinely NICE guy. But then....as he was making notes in my file.....he said the dreaded words......"you know you're going to be a repeat c-section, right? I know we had a 'healthy' discussion (read: arguement) about it before (before we found out the pregnancy last year was a blighted ovum) but that is just the way this has to be", and I just kinda mumbled a "yah" under my breath. I thought I was going to cry right then and there.
I feel HORRIBLE leaving him after all he and his office staff have done for me....like I'm betraying them or something, but DH and I had a long talk about it over the weekend and I decided that I need to switch. I just can not give him the o.k. to cut me open when I know I'm a GREAT candidate for a VBAC (after having consulted with another OB/GYN last year), simply because I've had a previous c-section. I just can't do it.
Monday morning I called the new OB and made appointments. I'm still going to keep the u/s appt. that the soon to be old OB had me schedule (on the 30th), and it is at that visit that I will tell them that I'm going elsewhere. I don't know how I'm going to do it, but I will do it and request my records be sent to the new doctor. The only good thing about it is that the doctor himself is not in on the day that I am scheduled for that u/s. I(BROCK! BROCK! <--- my best chicken impression!) I'm scheduled for the u/s and then to see the nurse midwife (whom I also adore). I think it will be a lot easier for me to talk to her about the whole thing than it would be if I were to talk to the doctor himself. Hopefully they will all understand and not be upset with me for it.
I emailed my IP's about it today after once again asking if they are going to make this appointment on the 30th or not. I really think they were hoping that I'd just go along with the c-section as they also love the OB, so I think they may be a little upset about it. Hopefully they will like the new OB (and they have spoken to him over the phone already....last year when this all came up, and seemed to be happy with him) and we will have a great journey no matter who takes care of us throughout the pregnancy.
So there it is and hopefully I'm on my way to a wonderful VBAC experience. First appointment with the new office is scheduled for April 5th. I'll just see their nurse midwife that day to go over everything, and then the first appointment with the actual doctor is scheduled for April 26th, with the nuchal translucency scan somewhere in between there. Busy April for sure!