Maybe this game means something else where you live, but here when we play it we never say you actually are like the person whose name you have on your forehead. It's just a fictional identity and though it's kind of lame to use someone as badly connoted as Hitler, it would have been an overreaction to take it personnally. Then again, maybe it means something different for you guys. In which case, I might think (I really don't know anything about your friends or you, I'm really sorry for talking about stuff I don't know) they only meant you had a dictatorial edge to your personality... probably nothing more, even though once again they could have found a better character. That really sucked, but I wouldn't say it was terrible.
That's just my opinion, and I am an outsider, so I very well know I might be totally missing the point, and if that's the case, I apologize.
Okay, I know you don't mean to be insensitive, which first of all means a lot. Secondly: yes, you are missing the point.
The point is not that I'm taking it personally (I'm not), or that it was aimed at me. The point is not that they perhaps did or did not compare me to Hitler-although in my mind that is an unspeakably horrific thing; to quote my father, "a call to murder". People like Hitler should be killed for the sake of humanity. To me, saying someone is like Hitler is tantamount to saying "he should be murdered". But that's not the point.
The point is that it happened at all. There are some things which should not be done, especially not in an environment purely dedicated to compassion, understanding, and safety. I know, with absolute certainty, that I would never in my life have let this happen to someone else. Not because I'm super-sensitive, but because there are some things which you just don't do.
You said: That really sucked, but I wouldn't say it was terrible. In my mind, there is nothing more terrible in this context
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I would like to emphasize my point. The comment above was the first response I wrote to any comment in this post; I was still very distraught and emotionally wiped out. A lot of that distress is expressed in the comment.
But my point isn't whether the members of the group did or did not joke about the Holocaust. Sure, I find it abhorrent, but some people use humour to deal with this difficult topic and I respect that. The point is that they were not sensitive and aware enough to consider I'd be hurt by it, or that it would be so incredibly painful to me as it was; they didn't think to refrain from this act even though it could have been easily avoided. People I've talked to have called it "really tactless", but I think it's more than that: it's thoughtless and inconsiderate. It's stupid. It's harmful.
The rest is all my private emotions coming to the fore. I feel very strongly about this topic. I realize you may not feel the same, and I accept that; I hope you accept my own sensitivity about this subject as well.
Alright. I understand how you feel about it. I realize I don't live in the same context as you do, so I wouldn't have felt as shocked or horrified as you did (even though maybe I should), just amazed at their lack of tact and thoughtfulness. I guess I just don't think the fictional character as awful as the deeds themselves.
I'll leave it at that, and you have all my sympathy for your distress.
Yes, don't worry. Bad phrasing. I meant "the character used in a game", an awkward way to say I do think Hitler was a terrible person, but as a fictional character in a game, it's not the same to me.
Then again, maybe it means something different for you guys. In which case, I might think (I really don't know anything about your friends or you, I'm really sorry for talking about stuff I don't know) they only meant you had a dictatorial edge to your personality... probably nothing more, even though once again they could have found a better character. That really sucked, but I wouldn't say it was terrible.
That's just my opinion, and I am an outsider, so I very well know I might be totally missing the point, and if that's the case, I apologize.
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The point is not that I'm taking it personally (I'm not), or that it was aimed at me. The point is not that they perhaps did or did not compare me to Hitler-although in my mind that is an unspeakably horrific thing; to quote my father, "a call to murder". People like Hitler should be killed for the sake of humanity. To me, saying someone is like Hitler is tantamount to saying "he should be murdered". But that's not the point.
The point is that it happened at all. There are some things which should not be done, especially not in an environment purely dedicated to compassion, understanding, and safety. I know, with absolute certainty, that I would never in my life have let this happen to someone else. Not because I'm super-sensitive, but because there are some things which you just don't do.
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But my point isn't whether the members of the group did or did not joke about the Holocaust. Sure, I find it abhorrent, but some people use humour to deal with this difficult topic and I respect that. The point is that they were not sensitive and aware enough to consider I'd be hurt by it, or that it would be so incredibly painful to me as it was; they didn't think to refrain from this act even though it could have been easily avoided. People I've talked to have called it "really tactless", but I think it's more than that: it's thoughtless and inconsiderate. It's stupid. It's harmful.
The rest is all my private emotions coming to the fore. I feel very strongly about this topic. I realize you may not feel the same, and I accept that; I hope you accept my own sensitivity about this subject as well.
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I guess I just don't think the fictional character as awful as the deeds themselves.
I'll leave it at that, and you have all my sympathy for your distress.
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I was going to end the comment here, but:
I guess I just don't think the fictional character as awful as the deeds themselves.
I just want to make sure; you know Hitler is a real historical figure, right?
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