Meme: 5 Things, Part 2
Rules and previous answers here.
Snake, some of these surprised me, but I answered them as best I could. ;)
From Snake:
Home: I guess home is what you make it. I wasn't born here, but it's the people you surround yourself with that makes it a home. Which leads into the next one.
Family: I have more non-blood family than I do "real" relatives. Family is the people you trust, the people who accept you and who you surround yourself with and feel at home with. Family is the people you can lean on and depend on to watch your back, no matter what. They're the people I'd go to hell and back for, then do it again just to show I mean it.
Past: Everyone's got one. Some carry more baggage than others. You can try to outrun it, you can try to leave it behind, or you can accept what is and leave behind what isn't. That doesn't really make much sense when I re-read it. What I mean is that some people never let anything go, whether the experience was useful or not, whether they could learn anything from it or not. Or instead of taking away the one good lesson from a bad experience, they carry around all the negative emotions, too, longer than they need to. So they're carrying around so much more extra baggage than they really need to and it weighs them down in life. On the other hand, you can pick and choose what baggage you carry with you and leave the rest behind, like the negative stuff that's only keeping you from progressing and really living anymore, because at some point, the only thing making those negative things a factor anymore in your present life is you holding on to it. Some things still matter and you should take your time dealing with them and moving on from them. But some things don't matter anymore, and you're only hurting yourself by dragging those issues with you longer than you need to. But it can be hard to sort of... open up the bag of your past and sort through it and let go of some things. I'm not saying I'm perfect at this.
And that might not also be what Snake meant! I've got a past in terms of having trouble with the law. Not that I'm trying to sound all noble or anything, but it's basically the bad guys are in power and so trying to do the right thing gets you outlawed, sorta like the Rebel Alliance in the movies that you guys know. Being "good" or "bad" is so subjective.
Heritage: Really? Heritage? I guess I have a heritage of where I come from and it's different from a lot of people? Or carrying on certain causes left behind by others.
Worry: You associate me with worry? *laughs* I guess I do worry. Happens when you've lost a lot of friends. I can shove it aside, especially when I have something to do in a situation, but if I feel helpless or can't help in any way, I tend to worry cause there's nothing else to do.
From Will:
Wes: Wes (and Aidan) are how we know each other. They were our common starting off point, cause Wes is one of my best friends like I think he is Will's, then me and Will found we had a lot of other things in common.
secrets: I sometimes joke about secrets, but unless it's classified intelligence, it's usually just something I don't want to talk about. Something that's painful or something that makes me look bad. Unfortunately, I have a lot of painful memories. Hence, "secrets."
long talks: We seem to have these every time we start talking. It goes on and on, but it's nice, to have someone to talk to like that. We should've become friends before, cause now we're just playing catch-up.
honesty: Honesty's very important to me. I make it a point to never lie to friends, except in extreme circumstances. When you've been cheated on as much as I have, honesty's a requirement in any relationship. When you have people out to get you as much as I have (been betrayed a few times in working relationships), honesty's the only way to build trust. I give it and I expect it of other people, or things go nowhere fast. Now I don't mind asking questions of other people, but they don't have to answer. Just as long as they don't lie to me about it. It goes both ways. I guess this ties into the secrets one, because I don't have to answer anything if I don't want to either. I never lie, though. I just say I don't want to talk about it.
friends: I've covered this a little in the other ones here and with Snake's, but I consider a lot of my friends to be family. I'd do anything for them, because that's just what you do for family. I become better friends with people who are honest to my face about themselves and about me, like if there's a problem or they're calling me on something stupid I'm doing (but should also support me in possible stupid endeavors. That's complicated. Never mind). But none of that playing games poodoo or stabbing people in the back. I don't know what's up with that. A friend is a good start to a romantic relationship too, cause maybe I'm selfish, but that way you get it all. A friend you have chemistry with is the best way to go. But I'm getting off topic here. I'm usually willing to be friends with just about anyone as long as they're not full of it. I think I have pretty high expectations of my friends, compared to some people, but I prefer to leave the drama and gossip with the 12-year-olds where it belongs. And I've met some people who can't handle the honesty I think is necessary in relationship, and really, I'm better off not knowing them.
Time to take Jaida out before bed.
Snake, some of these surprised me, but I answered them as best I could. ;)
From Snake:
Home: I guess home is what you make it. I wasn't born here, but it's the people you surround yourself with that makes it a home. Which leads into the next one.
Family: I have more non-blood family than I do "real" relatives. Family is the people you trust, the people who accept you and who you surround yourself with and feel at home with. Family is the people you can lean on and depend on to watch your back, no matter what. They're the people I'd go to hell and back for, then do it again just to show I mean it.
Past: Everyone's got one. Some carry more baggage than others. You can try to outrun it, you can try to leave it behind, or you can accept what is and leave behind what isn't. That doesn't really make much sense when I re-read it. What I mean is that some people never let anything go, whether the experience was useful or not, whether they could learn anything from it or not. Or instead of taking away the one good lesson from a bad experience, they carry around all the negative emotions, too, longer than they need to. So they're carrying around so much more extra baggage than they really need to and it weighs them down in life. On the other hand, you can pick and choose what baggage you carry with you and leave the rest behind, like the negative stuff that's only keeping you from progressing and really living anymore, because at some point, the only thing making those negative things a factor anymore in your present life is you holding on to it. Some things still matter and you should take your time dealing with them and moving on from them. But some things don't matter anymore, and you're only hurting yourself by dragging those issues with you longer than you need to. But it can be hard to sort of... open up the bag of your past and sort through it and let go of some things. I'm not saying I'm perfect at this.
And that might not also be what Snake meant! I've got a past in terms of having trouble with the law. Not that I'm trying to sound all noble or anything, but it's basically the bad guys are in power and so trying to do the right thing gets you outlawed, sorta like the Rebel Alliance in the movies that you guys know. Being "good" or "bad" is so subjective.
Heritage: Really? Heritage? I guess I have a heritage of where I come from and it's different from a lot of people? Or carrying on certain causes left behind by others.
Worry: You associate me with worry? *laughs* I guess I do worry. Happens when you've lost a lot of friends. I can shove it aside, especially when I have something to do in a situation, but if I feel helpless or can't help in any way, I tend to worry cause there's nothing else to do.
From Will:
Wes: Wes (and Aidan) are how we know each other. They were our common starting off point, cause Wes is one of my best friends like I think he is Will's, then me and Will found we had a lot of other things in common.
secrets: I sometimes joke about secrets, but unless it's classified intelligence, it's usually just something I don't want to talk about. Something that's painful or something that makes me look bad. Unfortunately, I have a lot of painful memories. Hence, "secrets."
long talks: We seem to have these every time we start talking. It goes on and on, but it's nice, to have someone to talk to like that. We should've become friends before, cause now we're just playing catch-up.
honesty: Honesty's very important to me. I make it a point to never lie to friends, except in extreme circumstances. When you've been cheated on as much as I have, honesty's a requirement in any relationship. When you have people out to get you as much as I have (been betrayed a few times in working relationships), honesty's the only way to build trust. I give it and I expect it of other people, or things go nowhere fast. Now I don't mind asking questions of other people, but they don't have to answer. Just as long as they don't lie to me about it. It goes both ways. I guess this ties into the secrets one, because I don't have to answer anything if I don't want to either. I never lie, though. I just say I don't want to talk about it.
friends: I've covered this a little in the other ones here and with Snake's, but I consider a lot of my friends to be family. I'd do anything for them, because that's just what you do for family. I become better friends with people who are honest to my face about themselves and about me, like if there's a problem or they're calling me on something stupid I'm doing (but should also support me in possible stupid endeavors. That's complicated. Never mind). But none of that playing games poodoo or stabbing people in the back. I don't know what's up with that. A friend is a good start to a romantic relationship too, cause maybe I'm selfish, but that way you get it all. A friend you have chemistry with is the best way to go. But I'm getting off topic here. I'm usually willing to be friends with just about anyone as long as they're not full of it. I think I have pretty high expectations of my friends, compared to some people, but I prefer to leave the drama and gossip with the 12-year-olds where it belongs. And I've met some people who can't handle the honesty I think is necessary in relationship, and really, I'm better off not knowing them.
Time to take Jaida out before bed.