Flirting is obscene and should disappear
Something I have long not understood, is the art of flirtation. Why is such a thing necessary? Can we; human beings not be forthcoming? And must we rely on less than satisfactory methods of achieving romantic relations?
Methods under this art, vary and some of them make not a lick of sense. "If a boy is mean to you, it means he likes you" and vice versa. Violence is not a sign of romantic interest. It is programmed into us from a young age to believe that if someone is rude towards us and constantly rejects our advances, they must be interested.
An example of this that I can share, is from my own experiences. A few years ago, I came straight out and told someone I was interested in them. However they did not feel the same and the subject was dropped. It is now two years later, and this individual, whom I have not a shred of feelings for anymore, is confronting me about the incident.
Well, perhaps confronting is not the right word. But he has started to pay an obscene amount of attention to me and it has been suggested to me many a time that he is flirting. Why is constant harassment and teasing considered flirting? It is not, and rather his actions are more than irritating. He even went so far as to ask if I loved him and he is consistently poking at me or taking my belongings.
How my peers see this as interest is beyond me.
If anyone can help me understand, it would be greatly appreciated.
Methods under this art, vary and some of them make not a lick of sense. "If a boy is mean to you, it means he likes you" and vice versa. Violence is not a sign of romantic interest. It is programmed into us from a young age to believe that if someone is rude towards us and constantly rejects our advances, they must be interested.
An example of this that I can share, is from my own experiences. A few years ago, I came straight out and told someone I was interested in them. However they did not feel the same and the subject was dropped. It is now two years later, and this individual, whom I have not a shred of feelings for anymore, is confronting me about the incident.
Well, perhaps confronting is not the right word. But he has started to pay an obscene amount of attention to me and it has been suggested to me many a time that he is flirting. Why is constant harassment and teasing considered flirting? It is not, and rather his actions are more than irritating. He even went so far as to ask if I loved him and he is consistently poking at me or taking my belongings.
How my peers see this as interest is beyond me.
If anyone can help me understand, it would be greatly appreciated.