The 'V' Word

[mercury_pheonix]

You probably don’t want to hear about my love life.

But you’re probably even less keen on hearing about my lack of a love life.

Today, I was asked the question: ‘are you single?’ This seems to be a question that is perfectly normal, culturally and socially, to ask - so I answered it truthfully. What else was I to do? To discuss one’s love life is

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[chryssalys]

I was a virgin (except for abuse, which I don't count) until I was 26. No dates, no interest, nothing - until I met my beloved, who is now my wife. We've been together 18 years now. And when I met her, there were four different people who were expressing interest in me all at the same time - it was weird, after a long (read forever) dry spell. I suspect something in me was finally ready for a relationship - and it showed.

Sweetie - no one should be allowed to pressure you into thinking you have to have sex to be a worthwhile human being, including yourself. And no one deserves the answer to that question, unless you feel like giving it. I like the answer above of "Why? Are you interested?" if *you* are. Otherwise a blank or disbelieving look works well.

Loneliness - oh, yes, I understand that one. Believe me, I do. Crying alone? Yeah, that too. But forgive me - but you really *are* young. Nineteen years old - you have all the world ahead of you, and love will come. When the time is right, when the person is right. And that may not be for a while - but that really *is* okay.

And for the record - if I were younger and the Pond wasn't between us? Rawr.