Hypothetical question

[mepersoner]

Say you've been dating a person for a number of years and love this person, but one day you stumble upon something that gives you proof, without any doubt, that this person has been lying about at least a quarter of his or her history to you.  Instead, this person has been feeding you stories about someone else's life.  When confronted with this

Comments

[flash_falcon]

Well it all comes down to the fact that given the room for growth, people who contstantly lie will only lie more as time goes on as long as they can get away with it, or have been getting away with it. Sometimes knowing too much is pretty bad, ignorance really is bliss sometimes. (Unless your partner got a nasty STD or something, then that's just fucked up).

To actually answer your questions: With that much lieing, I couldn't trust them again. Never. There is no acceptable excuse for it. And I would indeed wonder about past incidents that have caused problems, along with suspicions. History has a way of repeating itself, so with counting on someone who compulsively lies leaves little room for improvement in the situation you're in. The point is, you don't really know how bad it was, it is, or how it could possibly get. People almost always have more dirty laundry than they're willing to show.

Being single is better than being in a relationship with someone you can't trust no matter how hard you want to. Take it from me. I was in a situation exactly like this before, and the best thing to do is end it before it gets worse.