"you and your family" and poly
My aunt sent an invitation for Thanksgiving to "you and your family". After some pondering and discussion among ourselves, I told her that that meant six people, and I'd understand if she wasn't prepared to host that many, but we did want to have Thanksgiving together. She said yes, and to bring a side dish. :D
I entirely did not bring up the question of who's sleeping with whom, not considering it a suitable topic for an extended-family conversation. She is free to draw erroneous conclusions from the fact we're one married couple and one engaged couple, even if that leaves her puzzled about what we mean by family. If she asks, I'll be happy to explain to her that we love one another, are sharing finances, and are raising children together. That's as out as I need to be in that direction, I think.
I entirely did not bring up the question of who's sleeping with whom, not considering it a suitable topic for an extended-family conversation. She is free to draw erroneous conclusions from the fact we're one married couple and one engaged couple, even if that leaves her puzzled about what we mean by family. If she asks, I'll be happy to explain to her that we love one another, are sharing finances, and are raising children together. That's as out as I need to be in that direction, I think.