It's not bigotry if it's true.
I learned Friday morning about a new term. It's a term that apparently has some autistic self-advocates in quite an impressive twist. Some are rather shrill in calling it
a sham and a bogus disorder, while others are more cautious and simply call it
counterproductive to call attention to this disorder because it
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I saw on Thursday at the support group meeting that there was a flyer for a "partner of someone with autism" group. I thought it was AuSM that hosted the event, but I can't find it at their website now. Must've been some other group. I hope stuff like that really helps.
The authors I quoted above also mention that it goes both ways, so to speak. It's not just the autistic's "fault". I know that whenever I tried really hard to do something that was difficult for me so that I could impress my boyfriend... none of them ever said or did anything that acknowledged their understanding of its importance. The blindness for what is considered noteworthy can happen on both ends. There really does need to be a 3rd way, a middle ground, that blends both worldviews.
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i really believe there's someone for everyone (and if i'm wrong i won't know until it's too late anyway so...)
but still i don't think you should give up hope for a relationship even if your hopes are continuously crushed. like intentionally cutting yourself out of dating as a rule you follow and for 12 years...i never dated you but i think the harm you might be causing others is something they can handle. think of all the totally crazy people out there dating and causing all kinds of drama, i don't see you causing anywhere near that kind of trouble. plus, maybe some people can take it, or it's worth the cost. i don't know, just don't cut yourself off from the world. i'm just saying pain is kind of part of life and you just have to put up with it to get the good stuff as well.
also i would like to hang out with you maybe at bear coffee some night, after the crazy convergence weekend is over. :)
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I'm almost always out at Coffee on Wednesdays. Some weeks I have to bring the pager from work, but it's been a very long time since I needed to leave to deal with any issues. Look for us in the backyard after you get your drink and food. :)
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