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Hi everybody... Thanks for all your kind and helpful thoughts yesterday.. I guess I was feeling a bit bitter about the whole thing, and stuck.. and frustrated.
Several of you suggested why don't I just up and move nd believe me I would were it not for money.. A. makes a good income, me a tiny one. Since hes been at this income, I stopped working out of the house part time - I did teach children's after school art classes, evening adult ed, worked at a couple of art/kid places like a paint your own pottery shop.. and the deal was when his income increased (his business is now incorporated and is doing fairly well but not great recently - the have had temporary pay cuts recently) I would work at home and have managed to keep up what amounts to a part time income. Mostly this money was used for my own expenses, clothes, etc, also some of Em's expenses, but also as a "back up fund" when his income didn't cover everything. We basically do live paycheck to paycheck, have no savings, plus he has two maxed out credit cards that he only pays the minimum on. Ditto a student loan from.. 1979..?
"The Plan" was we would add up the household costs, rent, utilities, food, and basically split that into thirds. He would have 1/3 and I'd have 2/3 for Emily and I. This would make it feasible for him to live in the (very nice) house they are subletting for their office, and I could get a 2 bedroom condo for that. I was fine with that plan. Then he suddenly.. remembered.. that the time was coming up to settle this IRS thing. His offer to them was $1600 a month for 6 months, pretty much equal to his 1/3 of the living expenses. I said fine, I'll go ahead and get that condo and we will just have to live there together for 6 months until that's paid off. So that was Plan #2. Then the IRS levied our accounts. By then most of my $3000 ws gone, bailing out other issues and I was really sad about this. I should have kept it in cash and hidden it far away.. Frankly the next little bit of money I got, I spent right away on some necessities before it could get used for.. whatever...
Unfortunately now his business isn't doing great. he is taking monthly py cut.. plus soon there will be the IRS payments. Still, with some planning and hard work I don't see why we can't get out of here in a couple of moths if somehow I can come up with about $3500 again. But I can't physically do it all myself and he has done nothing more than clean up a few boxes from his side of the bed... so yes.. just taking my stuff ad leaving seems to be the logical thing, an I may do that.
I may wait till my bp is more stabilized. I should try to hire a guy with a truck to do a dump run of everything I don't want. I'm sure I'm smart enough and strong enough to figure it out, but I know now I need to go a bit slower that I had been. Mostly I needed to vent yesterday and I appreciate you all for listeing nd caring.
Several of you suggested why don't I just up and move nd believe me I would were it not for money.. A. makes a good income, me a tiny one. Since hes been at this income, I stopped working out of the house part time - I did teach children's after school art classes, evening adult ed, worked at a couple of art/kid places like a paint your own pottery shop.. and the deal was when his income increased (his business is now incorporated and is doing fairly well but not great recently - the have had temporary pay cuts recently) I would work at home and have managed to keep up what amounts to a part time income. Mostly this money was used for my own expenses, clothes, etc, also some of Em's expenses, but also as a "back up fund" when his income didn't cover everything. We basically do live paycheck to paycheck, have no savings, plus he has two maxed out credit cards that he only pays the minimum on. Ditto a student loan from.. 1979..?
"The Plan" was we would add up the household costs, rent, utilities, food, and basically split that into thirds. He would have 1/3 and I'd have 2/3 for Emily and I. This would make it feasible for him to live in the (very nice) house they are subletting for their office, and I could get a 2 bedroom condo for that. I was fine with that plan. Then he suddenly.. remembered.. that the time was coming up to settle this IRS thing. His offer to them was $1600 a month for 6 months, pretty much equal to his 1/3 of the living expenses. I said fine, I'll go ahead and get that condo and we will just have to live there together for 6 months until that's paid off. So that was Plan #2. Then the IRS levied our accounts. By then most of my $3000 ws gone, bailing out other issues and I was really sad about this. I should have kept it in cash and hidden it far away.. Frankly the next little bit of money I got, I spent right away on some necessities before it could get used for.. whatever...
Unfortunately now his business isn't doing great. he is taking monthly py cut.. plus soon there will be the IRS payments. Still, with some planning and hard work I don't see why we can't get out of here in a couple of moths if somehow I can come up with about $3500 again. But I can't physically do it all myself and he has done nothing more than clean up a few boxes from his side of the bed... so yes.. just taking my stuff ad leaving seems to be the logical thing, an I may do that.
I may wait till my bp is more stabilized. I should try to hire a guy with a truck to do a dump run of everything I don't want. I'm sure I'm smart enough and strong enough to figure it out, but I know now I need to go a bit slower that I had been. Mostly I needed to vent yesterday and I appreciate you all for listeing nd caring.